How do you effectively build and maintain a roster of men?

[Cheerio]

This is actually a post I made on LSA as well. I'll repost it here:

Most of us will agree that single women who are actively dating should keep a roster of guys because you don't want to put all your eggs in one basket. But for some of us, this is a little difficult. I'm not talking about sex or just casually dating for fun, I'm talking about dating in hopes that one of them will lead to something serious, potential husbands. For those of you who are successful at this, what is your secret?

Someone mentioned spreadsheets. What are some other methods?

[colorfulaura]

Hinge seems to have the most interesting pool of men. I use the League but it's overrated at least in my area. Same dudes on Tinder.

[Ildergreier]

Isis Ok.

[Isis]

😄 same one. He's new to me. I been single for 4 years lmao

[Isis]

Haha ! No, same one

[Ildergreier]

Yes !! Like lafemme mentioned. Hinge has more quality men, and i noticed the same with coffee meets bagel.

I did meet my new boo on okc though !

Another one?

[Vicki Lee]

Yes !! Like lafemme mentioned. Hinge has more quality men, and i noticed the same with coffee meets bagel.

I did meet my new boo on okc though !

New boo?

[Isis]

Yes !! Like lafemme mentioned. Hinge has more quality men, and i noticed the same with coffee meets bagel.

I did meet my new boo on okc though !

[Theogqueen]

My reaction:


Ohhhh you tryna get me loose, LOOSE.

Some similar shit happened to me.... Dude more than likely saw me pay for the food (error on my part), But apparently had all the money in the world to keep buying me shots of 1800 tho.... G.L. Lambert said no liquor on the first date, now next time I know better... Never again.

Someone had written an article about the problematic promotion of "ladies drink free" nights... Like literally those nights are perfect for predators looking for prey if you think about it. Think about how many young 21 year old girls go out, get cute, proably don't have a clique of friends, then a dude comes over and gas them up, and liquor them up... You catch the drift. Those are the nights IMO are for you and your girlfriends, I will never be on the look out for a dude under those cirumstances. That's why in the club scene we as women need to link up together even if we don't know each other because men don't give a damn.

(sorry if I went far left with it, lol it's been on my mind lately)

Yes I read something that said when ladies drink free, we are the product. I always think of that now lol. And yes liquor on dates is so bad and you can tell a guy’s intention by how hard he pushes it. I love that about not being a drinker, it really eliminates a lot of guys haha

[Theogqueen]

The apps that have been the most successful for me have been Hinge and Raya; perhaps you'd try those out??

And yes, please try meeting men out in public instead. Are you often high glam when you go out? I've toned mine down a few pegs, and men out in the wild react to me in a much more positive and verbose way; strange, but less is attracting more; for me.

Well I don’t consider it high glam, I only wear black dresses and have toned it down to flats. I don’t even wear full face makeup anymore! I hate wearing pants but I wear FN high waisted jeans with a body suit but I’m in Florida and it’s about 90 degrees 90% humidity every day 😂 but in The Tao of Dating he did say to dress to the 7’s not the 9’s

[Vicki Lee]

Jesus what a loser! And yep she does leave! But she'll pretend to use the bathroom and leave him waiting LMAO.
I think it was this video:

I love Mikki Pink! 🤗

[lafemme]

You’re motivating me. I don’t have any targets currently but a big part of me wants to delete all my dating apps. I just have OKC and bumble. But it’s boding and I’m only on for attention. I know the guys I like aren’t on there but always have a glimmer of hope. It just doesn’t work. Instead I’ll focus on just putting myself out there more in person. I don’t have a 9-5 so I have plenty of time to explore new places and hang out in cute lobbies and bars.

Good of luck with that target tho!

Yes cheap women have ruined it. We as women teach the world how to love us and they’ve been setting some bad standards and now I’m called high maintenance because I say no to dive bar meetups (I don’t even drink ugh)

The apps that have been the most successful for me have been Hinge and Raya; perhaps you'd try those out??

And yes, please try meeting men out in public instead. Are you often high glam when you go out? I've toned mine down a few pegs, and men out in the wild react to me in a much more positive and verbose way; strange, but less is attracting more; for me.

[Muestereate]

I saw a red flag of mine the other day. She looked deeply into my eyes and they were not dilated despite her enrapturement with me. Instead, her pupils were like pinpoints. Heroin. Asked around because other people had noticed the hit too, Newly widowed from a heroin overdosing husband. GTFO now Muestereate.

[Muestereate]

She set off my red flag so I just clicked the stop button, and now I'm going to the bathroom. lol.

[colorfulaura]

Like straight up leaves? Lol and who is this coach I’d love to watch her videos. I had a guy do that. We went on a double date to what was more of a barcade type thing but when I got there he kept giving us cash to get drinks because they were a dollar for ladies night. First strike but no big deal taking advantage of the happy hour I GUESS. Then when I asked about food he was like “I’m not hungry.” (Like ok I didn’t ask if you’re hungry I said I’m ready to eat lol)But I was, so I asked for a menu. He had the nerve to be like “oh am I buying you food?” After buying nonstop alcohol for 2 hours lol. Then of course got upset when I was ready to go home to sleep (id had a long day) instead of go home with him.

Jesus what a loser! And yep she does leave! But she'll pretend to use the bathroom and leave him waiting LMAO.
I think it was this video:

[Vicki Lee]

He had the nerve to be like “oh am I buying you food?” After buying nonstop alcohol for 2 hours lol.

My reaction:


Ohhhh you tryna get me loose, LOOSE.

Some similar shit happened to me.... Dude more than likely saw me pay for the food (error on my part), But apparently had all the money in the world to keep buying me shots of 1800 tho.... G.L. Lambert said no liquor on the first date, now next time I know better... Never again.

Someone had written an article about the problematic promotion of "ladies drink free" nights... Like literally those nights are perfect for predators looking for prey if you think about it. Think about how many young 21 year old girls go out, get cute, proably don't have a clique of friends, then a dude comes over and gas them up, and liquor them up... You catch the drift. Those are the nights IMO are for you and your girlfriends, I will never be on the look out for a dude under those cirumstances. That's why in the club scene we as women need to link up together even if we don't know each other because men don't give a damn.

(sorry if I went far left with it, lol it's been on my mind lately)

[Theogqueen]

If it's a bar restaurant you can gauge them by ordering food with your drinks. Drink dates are more unclear because it can turn into a dinner date but it'll depend on the man. I was watching a video of a dating coach who uses drink dates as tests. She'll ask the guy about the food on the menu and if the guy says something like "I'm not hungry" to push her to drinks she gets up and leaves.

Like straight up leaves? Lol and who is this coach I’d love to watch her videos. I had a guy do that. We went on a double date to what was more of a barcade type thing but when I got there he kept giving us cash to get drinks because they were a dollar for ladies night. First strike but no big deal taking advantage of the happy hour I GUESS. Then when I asked about food he was like “I’m not hungry.” (Like ok I didn’t ask if you’re hungry I said I’m ready to eat lol)But I was, so I asked for a menu. He had the nerve to be like “oh am I buying you food?” After buying nonstop alcohol for 2 hours lol. Then of course got upset when I was ready to go home to sleep (id had a long day) instead of go home with him.

[colorfulaura]

Coffee and tea dates are better. Or tapas but sitting at the bar so it’s a little more low pressure and not as you said like a job interview haha. Drink dates are “I’m trying to get you drunk and loose so I get you in bed quickly and easily without having to spend too much time and effort on you.” It’s a step above Netflix and chill.

If it's a bar restaurant you can gauge them by ordering food with your drinks. Drink dates are more unclear because it can turn into a dinner date but it'll depend on the man. I was watching a video of a dating coach who uses drink dates as tests. She'll ask the guy about the food on the menu and if the guy says something like "I'm not hungry" to push her to drinks she gets up and leaves.

[Ildergreier]

The IG generation has made finding a man a lot worse than it needs to be.

[Theogqueen]

The drink dates are low effort but I can't stand anything more than coffee "dates." It's like meeting up for a job interview for a real date.

Coffee and tea dates are better. Or tapas but sitting at the bar so it’s a little more low pressure and not as you said like a job interview haha. Drink dates are “I’m trying to get you drunk and loose so I get you in bed quickly and easily without having to spend too much time and effort on you.” It’s a step above Netflix and chill.