How do you effectively build and maintain a roster of men?

[Theogqueen]

I predominately date white guys. Most of the time, they are too nervous to approach because they just aren't sure whether a Black woman is interested or not. I do get a lot of smiles from them and I guess they wait for my signal to come up to me. I think it's very attractive when a guy can approach me, even if he is nervous. I prefer that instead of me approaching. Ultimately, if a man is really interested, no nerves will stop him. I like traditional, dominant, and alpha men.

Same girl. Predominately white men are attracted to me. Hispanic, Indian, and occasionally Asian. My favorite is middle eastern ???? lol. But yes I’ve noticed that too. I had one tell me how badly he wants to date black women because we’re so “beautiful” (facts lol) but he’s always just way too intimidated.

I remember going out out with an ex friend—she’s black as well but quiet, smaller, and far less attractive than me, and she’d always get hit on by cute guys and I was so confused and dejected but since matched with some of them or later came across them and they all say they didn’t talk to me first because I was prettier, curvier, and therefore more intimidating and they “knew” I’d reject them. She also was a much better signaler than I am because low key o get shy when I find a man attractive and find it hard to make that eye contact and do the smiling and all that. Ugh.

Working on that though.

But it at the same time, like you, I like alpha types and I feel an alpha type wouldn’t be afraid to come up to me and claim some face time. But then one could argue that he has too much practice speaking to women and could be a player ????

EDIT: https://farfrombasyc.com/2019/02/approach-first.html

[Theogqueen]

Theogqueen
Here's a good website to refrence to: https://blackgirlsareeasy.com

Yes! I love GL! I’m actually rereading Ho Tactics as we speak. I will be perusing his blog though thanks!

[Cheerio]

I love this! And it’s so innocent if the guy ends up having some reason to not be “interested” it’s not weird! I sometimes enjoy giving guys really unique genuine compliments that aren’t necessarily hitting on them and love seeing how their ego swells lol. Like “Your shirt is so nice! It makes your biceps look great.”

However I’d only done it while out at bars and nearly black out drunk but now that I don’t drink anymore (due to the aforementioned) or really go to bars at night I have to muster up confidence to do it normally lol. Hopefully Temptress will give me some self hits of confidence.

My my new mantra is now “approaching=\=pursuing” haha.

I predominately date white guys. Most of the time, they are too nervous to approach because they just aren't sure whether a Black woman is interested or not. I do get a lot of smiles from them and I guess they wait for my signal to come up to me. I think it's very attractive when a guy can approach me, even if he is nervous. I prefer that instead of me approaching. Ultimately, if a man is really interested, no nerves will stop him. I like traditional, dominant, and alpha men.

[Muestereate]

Pheros seems to be a really good social lubricant. I don't drink either but pheros smooth things right out. GL with Temptress.

[Vicki Lee]

Theogqueen
Here's a good website to refrence to: https://blackgirlsareeasy.com

[Theogqueen]

I'm in New York.
If I do see a guy is staring at me and is struggling to come up to me, I will approach him. I will pretend I need directions (or if we're in a store, I'll ask him to grab something off the top shelf for me bc I'm short), and it will be up to him to start pursing me now that I've given him the green light. This is the more modern way of signaling a guy to talk to you. Back then, women used to "accidentally" drop their handkerchiefs in front of their target(s) so that he could pick it up and rush to return it to them.

Took me a while to understand that approaching =/= pursuing.

I love this! And it’s so innocent if the guy ends up having some reason to not be “interested” it’s not weird! I sometimes enjoy giving guys really unique genuine compliments that aren’t necessarily hitting on them and love seeing how their ego swells lol. Like “Your shirt is so nice! It makes your biceps look great.”

However I’d only done it while out at bars and nearly black out drunk but now that I don’t drink anymore (due to the aforementioned) or really go to bars at night I have to muster up confidence to do it normally lol. Hopefully Temptress will give me some self hits of confidence.

My my new mantra is now “approaching=\=pursuing” haha.

[Cheerio]

I’m in Florida! You?

side note: any of you ever attempt to approach anyone when on the prowl? Or do you just wait to be approached first?

I'm in New York.
If I do see a guy is staring at me and is struggling to come up to me, I will approach him. I will pretend I need directions (or if we're in a store, I'll ask him to grab something off the top shelf for me bc I'm short), and it will be up to him to start pursing me now that I've given him the green light. This is the more modern way of signaling a guy to talk to you. Back then, women used to "accidentally" drop their handkerchiefs in front of their target(s) so that he could pick it up and rush to return it to them.

Took me a while to understand that approaching =/= pursuing.

[Theogqueen]

I love it ????! Get ready to go on the prowl! ???????????? we’re exactly on the same wave length!

YASSS let’s get these rosters full by end of summer

[Theogqueen]

Which state do you live in?

I’m in Florida! You?

side note: any of you ever attempt to approach anyone when on the prowl? Or do you just wait to be approached first?

[Cheerio]

I’m working on this! But unlike the old me I want this roster to be high quality, respectful men. It’s so easy to round up a bunch from tinder and bumble but they’re all trash. I’m hoping to be talking to at least 3-5 (I read in a book though forget the title that this is idea) who are kind, generous, financially stable/wealthy, doting and handsome af. We’re not doing low standards just to have people to talk to in 2019-2020!

Gonna spend more time in nicer areas at nicer times and use my manifesting power, conjure oils, and pheromones to reel em in!

Which state do you live in?

[Vicki Lee]

I’m working on this! But unlike the old me I want this roster to be high quality, respectful men. It’s so easy to round up a bunch from tinder and bumble but they’re all trash. I’m hoping to be talking to at least 3-5 (I read in a book though forget the title that this is idea) who are kind, generous, financially stable/wealthy, doting and handsome af. We’re not doing low standards just to have people to talk to in 2019-2020!

Gonna spend more time in nicer areas at nicer times and use my manifesting power, conjure oils, and pheromones to reel em in!

I love it ????! Get ready to go on the prowl! ???????????? we’re exactly on the same wave length!

[Theogqueen]

I’m working on this! But unlike the old me I want this roster to be high quality, respectful men. It’s so easy to round up a bunch from tinder and bumble but they’re all trash. I’m hoping to be talking to at least 3-5 (I read in a book though forget the title that this is idea) who are kind, generous, financially stable/wealthy, doting and handsome af. We’re not doing low standards just to have people to talk to in 2019-2020!

Gonna spend more time in nicer areas at nicer times and use my manifesting power, conjure oils, and pheromones to reel em in!

[Cheerio]

It's the summertime and I'm ready to be courted and woo'd this time around. Winter and spring have been so slow for me with serious dating prospects, but I get as many bachelors as how serious I am in investing energy into my dating life. I'm ready to level up for the next 6 months.

Summer is such a great time to date! There's so much more to do, especially if you live in a big city. There's always something fun going on & you get to show off your cute figure with a cute sundress.

[colorfulaura]

It's the summertime and I'm ready to be courted and woo'd this time around. Winter and spring have been so slow for me with serious dating prospects, but I get as many bachelors as how serious I am in investing energy into my dating life. I'm ready to level up for the next 6 months.

[Vicki Lee]

I have him blocked for a reason and I think the gif clearly explains why.... LMAO

[Cheerio]

[Ildergreier]

Sexual compatibility to me is just as an important aspect to ME as emotional, spiritual, etc. aspects. It ranks high as it can go, because I have special quirks in the bedroom that need to be met or I'm just wasting my time in the long haul.

Agreed. If the things that goes on in the bedroom is to my liking, I start to resent the man quick enough.

[Vicki Lee]

Now that I think about it, I agree with you on this.

Also, it might make sense to have sex with a guy before putting him on the roster so you can find out if he is good and compatible in bed. Pointless to keep a guy around as a LTR prospect if he is not good in bed unless that is not important to you.

Sexual compatibility to me is just as an important aspect to ME as emotional, spiritual, etc. aspects. It ranks high as it can go, because I have special quirks in the bedroom that need to be met or I'm just wasting my time in the long haul.

[Metaltree]

The only thing I'd correct is the last bit. Don't hookup with any of them at all. Dating & having sex aren't the same but it seems the word "dating" has become synonymous with sex (and it shouldn't). It's crazy to me how many people can't date each other without becoming physical. Most times, it's because the woman is afraid the man will lose interest, so she gives in too fast. If a man loses interest because he doesn't get to pelvic-slap with you, then he was the never the man for you to begin with.

Now that I think about it, I agree with you on this.

Also, it might make sense to have sex with a guy before putting him on the roster so you can find out if he is good and compatible in bed. Pointless to keep a guy around as a LTR prospect if he is not good in bed unless that is not important to you.

[Vicki Lee]

The only thing I'd correct is the last bit. Don't hookup with any of them at all. Dating & having sex aren't the same but it seems the word "dating" has become synonymous with sex (and it shouldn't). It's crazy to me how many people can't date each other without becoming physical. Most times, it's because the woman is afraid the man will lose interest, so she gives in too fast. If a man loses interest because he doesn't get to pelvic-slap with you, then he was the never the man for you to begin with.

I’d at least have one fuck buddy on the side to keep things nice and balanced. Nothing wrong with a good pelvic slap from a guy who’s only talent is slinging dick ????????????. He’ll make the % of temptation of fucking the others slim to none... My only thing is, what if the guy you end up being with is shitty in bed ???? no stroke, cums too quick, don’t know where the clit is????... *shivers* Worst nightmare ever.