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Originally posted by OutspokenOne View Post
Very true! I like your mindset, I agree with a lot of the posts you've made in this thread haha
Also I want to say judging is different than discernment sometimes you just have to judge a situation and make a decision that's best for your well being, that's ok. Being compassionate and kind includes YOURSELF!
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Originally posted by OutspokenOne View PostPeople always gossip at work. It's nothing new. Now when people go to work to intimidate/bully others, that's an issue and something I don't take lightly. People who do that are miserable and come to work to do that shit.
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Originally posted by Cheerio View Post
Thankfully, I haven't met any older women who gossip because they're just too busy living their lives. This doesn't mean they don't gossip with their other friends, lol. Just not to me.
I'll try to move forward with an open mind. I came into this job with an open mind and it slowly started to diminish once I realized I was being "left out." It's weird to me how things changed quickly. I'm only a month in, so there's still time!
When I went to Charlotte for work, one of the girls actually messaged me saying she missed me in the office, lol. I think I feel this way for a couple of reasons:
1) My pheromones might be affecting their natural reactions to me... they feel weird emotions + can't explain it (I can, it's the mones)
2) Mercury Retrograde (lmao)
3) I'm afraid because I've been burned plenty times before and have had enough
4) They are hot and cold with me
I have spent soooo much time really thinking about these things, in general. At some point, I wondered if I was autistic or something, lol.
Just remember they ha e a whole dialogue of things running through their heads as well, every one wants to feel like they belong, and they've also been burned.
Focus on the commonalities, don't seperate yourself unintentionally, but at the same time you have a choice of how much you are willing to out into those relationships, and maybe when it comes down to it, you decide its not worth your energy? Or maybe a little extra friendly energy towards them is just enough to make work smoother. Like you said you are still new there. Smile, be a team player, and see what happens. This is also scorpio season, transformation time, time to shed the old. You started a new job, you are stepping into a new and different time in your life, enjoy the journey and see what happens. So much can change so fast, it's hard to see it sometimes. Let the dust settle a bit. Or if you are feeling feisty stir it all up! Lol.
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Originally posted by Cheerio View Post
I honestly hope it never gets to that point and honestly, I actually don't see it ever getting to that point ever. Maybe a lil' petty here and there (like yesterday), but nothing extreme. I just don't see that happening.
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Originally posted by Mysticbeauty View Post
Then that is something to celebrate girl! If you work in a gossip free zone, that's an excuse to party!
On Halloween, I had someone make a vodka cranberry drink before I went to get my lunch at reception, lol.
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Originally posted by Mysticbeauty View PostI'd have to re read your journal because you could be talking about different women.
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Originally posted by Cheerio View PostNot at all and the reason why I didn't vibe is because I noticed I was being left out. So ultimately, I didn't want it anyway.
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Originally posted by Mysticbeauty View PostIt's always a possibility that they thought you wouldn't want to be by them?
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Originally posted by Cheerio View PostI actually would actively try to include myself in conversations and try to make some efforts and I could tell they weren't interested. It was embarrassing so I've learned from that incident.
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Originally posted by Mysticbeauty View Post
Yes that's the worst and it's hurtful. Again when cohesion comes, see if it works on them. It really transformed some mean girls(immature/bitchy/the works) into women who gave me compliments, included me, etc. I don't want to set your expectations high in case it doesn't work the same for you. It might nto work on every woman in your office, but it will probably work on some and if it can make you feel wonderful and let their negativity roll right off of you, even better!.
I also think they might like me with smaller doses of pheros instead of stacking them.
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Originally posted by Mysticbeauty View PostJust don't let negative people make you become jaded. Easier said then done, but you are aware of it. I believe it will all turn out just fine. =)
I also want to believe that if they really didn't like me, they wouldn't have followed me on social media + yesterday, the same Latina wouldn't have asked me what I've been up to when she saw me sitting by myself on another floor. I don't even know what to think, lol. Just take it one day at a time.
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Originally posted by Mysticbeauty View Post
Yeah. In my fantasy world every one gets along is happy, purposeful, etc. But some people just want to bring that negative shit every where they go and take you down with them. It's unnecessary, especially in the medical field (where you work right?). That should be a place of healing! It's upsetting to me.Current Arsenal:
XS (Full Bottles): Xist (women), Engage, Bliss, PSEL, Babe, Desire Me+, XS196 (Girlfriend Blend), Fantasy, Love Boat, Tease, Goddess Blend, Sweetness, P86, Connections, Mascot, Fairytale, Flirt, P96, Glow, Bitch (XS124), XSP106, XSR46, XS189
Samples: Innocence, Thinker, Celebrity, Temptress, Comply, Glow, Vibe, Inbetween, Odyssey.
LPMP: Blatant Invitation, Levitation, Honeyed LP w/ Gotcha
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Originally posted by Mysticbeauty View Post
Yes that's the worst and it's hurtful. Again when cohesion comes, see if it works on them. It really transformed some mean girls(immature/bitchy/the works) into women who gave me compliments, included me, etc. I don't want to set your expectations high in case it doesn't work the same for you. It might nto work on every woman in your office, but it will probably work on some and if it can make you feel wonderful and let their negativity roll right off of you, even better!.Current Arsenal:
XS (Full Bottles): Xist (women), Engage, Bliss, PSEL, Babe, Desire Me+, XS196 (Girlfriend Blend), Fantasy, Love Boat, Tease, Goddess Blend, Sweetness, P86, Connections, Mascot, Fairytale, Flirt, P96, Glow, Bitch (XS124), XSP106, XSR46, XS189
Samples: Innocence, Thinker, Celebrity, Temptress, Comply, Glow, Vibe, Inbetween, Odyssey.
LPMP: Blatant Invitation, Levitation, Honeyed LP w/ Gotcha
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Originally posted by Cheerio View Post
Even if it may not work the same, this might give me a bit of hope. Knowing what you know now, do you think Bitch will do any good? I'm really thinking about wearing Vibe tomorrow, maybe Vibe with Bitch and Xist (for resetting). I'm just so scared of the name, lol.
I also think they might like me with smaller doses of pheros instead of stacking them.
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Originally posted by OutspokenOne View Post
Hmmmmm, I might have to purchase this Cohesion that you speak of
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Originally posted by OutspokenOne View Post
Yes I work in health care and it is very unnecessary! You'd be surprised on how the drama people cause will effect the patient care given in the clinic. I used to work with a miserable doctor but i'm far from her now thank god. Misery loves company!
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Originally posted by Cheerio View Post
Thank you so much for your advice. I truly appreciate you, Mystic! I'll think about this whenever I go in for work. I really don't want to make enemies and I don't want anyone to pay for anything others have done to me.
I also want to believe that if they really didn't like me, they wouldn't have followed me on social media + yesterday, the same Latina wouldn't have asked me what I've been up to when she saw me sitting by myself on another floor. I don't even know what to think, lol. Just take it one day at a time.
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