How do you effectively build and maintain a roster of men?

[Vicki Lee]

The original thread (this one) is here but I think some comments were removed, or am I confused?
Because...

Nope
Ildergreier And I think another deleted unnecessary commentary and I think some posts got purged along with the non-sense.

[Muestereate]

you are correct

[Muestereate]

What do you think of tracking goals, both long and short term, yours versus his? Mutualities versus opposing and might as well include neutral goals like safe hobbies and benign interests.

Another area of interests are thought processes and processing, primitive versus sophisticated, complex versus simple, enigmatic or eccentric.

Ideologies fact-based versus fantasy, emotional versus rational. This is the stuff we deal with long term that causes a lot of frustration, friction and an inability to be part of a team.

I could go on but maybe you catch my drift.

[Cheerio]

It was.... Now the post is gone... Hmmm. But yeah, dude always oversteps so I don't know why the thread was temporarily shut down because he's a... But it's back open so that's all that matters.

The original thread (this one) is here but I think some comments were removed, or am I confused?
Because...

[Muestereate]

quote like you already did, then highlight the section and hit Control B or there is an advanced editor with a big B Icon. Not available in comments btw, just posts.

[Vicki Lee]

For a second, I thought my thread got shut down.

Good thing it wasn't.

It was.... Now the post is gone... Hmmm. But yeah, dude always oversteps so I don't know why the thread was temporarily shut down because he's a... But it's back open so that's all that matters.

[Cheerio]

For a second, I thought my thread got shut down.

Good thing it wasn't.

[Cheerio]

I don't know how to emphasize or bold your last sentence - but yes. I find I attract too many beta or passive males and I'm tired of it. So unattractive.

Some men really can't hold their own and it's quite annoying. I don't have time for it. My personality and relationship interests will only be compatible with someone who is an alpha. I can't deal with push-overs and yes-men.

[Cheerio]

They are! I went on an amazing date with a millionaire from Dubai. He was so sweet he let me order anything and we went to a reservation only restaurant. He would serve me and wait until I ate before eating. I literally felt like a queen! He almost bought me a flight to go with him to new york right at the table, but something told me to wait. Later on, he got mad because i wouldnt go to his hotel with him (i would've but I was too tipsy and had just gotten my appendix out so i was suffering lol. he didn't care! just wanted to get laid). But I dream of meeting someone similar someday that is good quality.

Maybe you dodged a bullet after he got mad that you didn't want to go back to his hotel? Was he at least respectful?

I love those types of men. The ones that like to take care of their women and still value old world traditions. I just can't get down with this modern, 50/50 guys. I dry up faster than the Sahara desert whenever I hear of women shelling out money for/with men. *shivers* I mean, if it works for them, then fine but it couldn't be me!

And that's why dating will always be harder for women with higher standards bc a lot of men aren't even worth the stressors that come with relationships. I'd very much prefer to stay single than to not have exactly the man I want. Maybe that's also why a roster is hard for me because I'm not just giving any man attention, let alone including him in a roster. You need to hit every. single. bullet point. And I don't care. LOL.

[Muestereate]

Forum sex be like...

https://i.imgflip.com/2v25lz.jpg

[colorfulaura]

I predominately date white guys. Most of the time, they are too nervous to approach because they just aren't sure whether a Black woman is interested or not. I do get a lot of smiles from them and I guess they wait for my signal to come up to me. I think it's very attractive when a guy can approach me, even if he is nervous. I prefer that instead of me approaching. Ultimately, if a man is really interested, no nerves will stop him. I like traditional, dominant, and alpha men.

I don't know how to emphasize or bold your last sentence - but yes. I find I attract too many beta or passive males and I'm tired of it. So unattractive.

[Theogqueen]

Middle Eastern and Arab men are so gorgeous with their almond eyes. I like them too.
The only thing that would determine a man being a player is how he treats you, not how good he is at talking to you.

They are! I went on an amazing date with a millionaire from Dubai. He was so sweet he let me order anything and we went to a reservation only restaurant. He would serve me and wait until I ate before eating. I literally felt like a queen! He almost bought me a flight to go with him to new york right at the table, but something told me to wait. Later on, he got mad because i wouldnt go to his hotel with him (i would've but I was too tipsy and had just gotten my appendix out so i was suffering lol. he didn't care! just wanted to get laid). But I dream of meeting someone similar someday that is good quality.

[Metaltree]

Sometimes clueless guys miss the obvious signals completely such as pupil dilation and her standing closer. We may reject the girl by accident without even knowing it.

[Isis]

Did I miss something? ????

[Cheerio]

Metaltree - Pay attention to body language and her eyes. When someone likes you, their pupils become dilated. And if she's interested, she'll stand closer to you, not away.

[Metaltree]

I usually won't realize this is a signal. A few hours later I'll recall the way she looked at me and I'll realize too late that she might have been giving me an opening of some sort. :(

[Muestereate]

I moved some posts that had nothing to do with the conversation at hand.

Ildergreier, moderator.

Link please, they look to be deleted or censored instead of moved. I cannot find them. Where did you hide them?

[Cheerio]

Same girl. Predominately white men are attracted to me. Hispanic, Indian, and occasionally Asian. My favorite is middle eastern ???? lol. But yes I’ve noticed that too. I had one tell me how badly he wants to date black women because we’re so “beautiful” (facts lol) but he’s always just way too intimidated.

I remember going out out with an ex friend—she’s black as well but quiet, smaller, and far less attractive than me, and she’d always get hit on by cute guys and I was so confused and dejected but since matched with some of them or later came across them and they all say they didn’t talk to me first because I was prettier, curvier, and therefore more intimidating and they “knew” I’d reject them. She also was a much better signaler than I am because low key o get shy when I find a man attractive and find it hard to make that eye contact and do the smiling and all that. Ugh.

Working on that though.

But it at the same time, like you, I like alpha types and I feel an alpha type wouldn’t be afraid to come up to me and claim some face time. But then one could argue that he has too much practice speaking to women and could be a player ????

EDIT: https://farfrombasyc.com/2019/02/approach-first.html

Middle Eastern and Arab men are so gorgeous with their almond eyes. I like them too.
The only thing that would determine a man being a player is how he treats you, not how good he is at talking to you.

[Ildergreier]

I moved some posts that had nothing to do with the conversation at hand.

Ildergreier, moderator.

[Theogqueen]

That’s what I was hoping for thanks!