As you know, I'm creating an app specifically for women to make friends and network with each other. I came up with this idea for a couple of reasons, but the main reason is that it's just so hard for women to make friends! Women aren't very nice to each other because of this imaginary competition (for men, careers, etc)! The only girl I can say that I've been friends with for a "long" time is the girl I wrote about in my journal. She's younger than I am, and it almost made us not compatible. She's ask me for advice and turn around and keep making stupid decisions. At some point, I felt like I was wasting my energy on her and we fell out and now we're friends again, but it's different this time bc I'm learning who she is and I'm learning that she's still learning and if I do make the choice to stay friends with her, then I'll need patience. We all have that one friend who does not always listen to us, lol. However, when we became friends again, she told me how much she's learned from me and I'm glad she's started becoming ruthless with men now (haha). I find that I get along better with older women. I also find myself getting along much better with women who follow hypergamous ideas. The last thing I need is someone in my friendship circle telling me I should only marry for love, lol. It's all an interesting phenomenon.
Anyway, one of my reasons for going to a lot of events is to make friends. Although some girls seem enthusiastic about meeting up again in the near future, they never follow up. I'll admit, it's also pride on my part that if someone isn't texting me, then i'm not going to text them until I see that it is a mutual thing. But it's hard to tell in the beginning. They appear to be responsive when I try to make conversation, but sometimes I wonder if they're just in the moment. I've also wondered if it's because I don't live in the city and so they feel that they shouldn't even try building a friendship with me? I remember doing an internship at the U.N. only a year ago and every single one of them shunned me from the group. Now, they're watching me on social media + trying to get back into my good graces once they realized what I'm about. It's always interesting to see how people are quick to push you to the side when they think you can't do anything for them, and then their behaviors towards you change when they realize you've become somebody they're going to want to know. Last year, around my birthday, the ring leader of it all (who is actually the first girl that I met in the internship, she's Nigerian), sent the group chat (which had been inactive for a while) saying that this was the time when we developed a friendship and that we should celebrate my birthday together. I ignored it. I'm not down with that. One of the brown girls hated me. The guy she was sleeping with was going to a basketball game with us, and since they've shunned me from all group outings previously, he hadn't seen me in a while. He was making small talk... until she literally came from the other side of the train to put his arm around him, walk back to the other interns, and then walked back over again. It was as crazy as it sounds! I have never experienced such thing in my life with a group of people.
Do you find it hard to make lady friends or have you gotten lucky in that department? What kind of women do you find yourself getting along with much better?
Anyway, one of my reasons for going to a lot of events is to make friends. Although some girls seem enthusiastic about meeting up again in the near future, they never follow up. I'll admit, it's also pride on my part that if someone isn't texting me, then i'm not going to text them until I see that it is a mutual thing. But it's hard to tell in the beginning. They appear to be responsive when I try to make conversation, but sometimes I wonder if they're just in the moment. I've also wondered if it's because I don't live in the city and so they feel that they shouldn't even try building a friendship with me? I remember doing an internship at the U.N. only a year ago and every single one of them shunned me from the group. Now, they're watching me on social media + trying to get back into my good graces once they realized what I'm about. It's always interesting to see how people are quick to push you to the side when they think you can't do anything for them, and then their behaviors towards you change when they realize you've become somebody they're going to want to know. Last year, around my birthday, the ring leader of it all (who is actually the first girl that I met in the internship, she's Nigerian), sent the group chat (which had been inactive for a while) saying that this was the time when we developed a friendship and that we should celebrate my birthday together. I ignored it. I'm not down with that. One of the brown girls hated me. The guy she was sleeping with was going to a basketball game with us, and since they've shunned me from all group outings previously, he hadn't seen me in a while. He was making small talk... until she literally came from the other side of the train to put his arm around him, walk back to the other interns, and then walked back over again. It was as crazy as it sounds! I have never experienced such thing in my life with a group of people.
Do you find it hard to make lady friends or have you gotten lucky in that department? What kind of women do you find yourself getting along with much better?
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