Do you find it hard to make lady friends?

[Cheerio]

We've all been burned

I have been way too many times to the point I just tread lightly and maybe I automatically distance myself from other women. But over and over again, I realize how much I get along sooo much better with older women than young.

[Cheerio]

Yes there is definitely a "pretty privledge". I usually get along with most men too because they find me attractive and a bunch of other things.

Exactly. Men are nice to you depending on how attractive you are, lol. It's bad but it's true.

I have a hard time hiding my emotions from my face.

Me too! As much as it's hard to admit, lol. My personality is great, but my face doesn't show it.

Even reading women on here spending extra time and energy on a guy, who isn't reciprocating is hard to read.

Tell me about it. I've learned to just keep my comments to myself at this point. Just generally hearing about the kinds of things women are settling for is... unsettling for me bc women are meant to be choosy.

It can change your perspective on some things.

They definitely won't be changing my perspective on splitting bills, LOL.

[Mysticbeauty]

I totally know where you're coming from. When I was 22-24 (still currently 24), there was this one guy I kept giving a chance but with other dudes, I would cut them off immediately the minute they did disrespectful shit. Anywho, I was really forgiving with this guy. And when I told people about him, I would get judged so hard so I stopped talking to people about it. Which wasn't a good idea because I would bottle up all the hurt/thoughts I had about him and become obsessive. It wasn't until I spoke to my therapist about him, that I was able to move on. She didn't insult me or made me feel stupid however she was real with me and told me why he shouldn't be in my life. Had I had another woman who helped me out that same way, I probably would have got over the guy sooner.

We've all acted a fool for men, it's nothing to be ashamed about. We just didn't know any better. Now to continuously be a fool after being warned multiple times...that's not something I can defend.

Yes same thing happened to me. I started being so embarrassed and ashamed that I was with hi., I stopped talking to my friends about him. I know that's a warning sign now. I know now that no human is worth losing my dignity for. I wish I would have gone to therapy. That was smart of you! I wish I knew in my 20's what I know now. I'm 31 and I LOVE MY THIRTIES. so if you have that mindset now all the power to you! That makes me happy!

[Mysticbeauty]

Oh yes I feel you on that, I have shitty eyes (been wearing glasses since the 4th grade). If I couldn't wear contacts, I wouldn't be able to hypnotize men with my seductive eyes

Glad you get it! Lol

[OutspokenOne]

Not every one is ready to just show you every thing right away either. We've all been burned and I feel like even with friendships some women aren't going to just put it all on the table right away. It takes time and trust. Things come out eventually. Yes there are soo many perspectives!

Very good points made. Like I say, it's always wiser to be open-minded

[OutspokenOne]

Yes! Absolutely. You said it better than I was going to! I just think back when I was doing dumb shit, settling for less than my worth:I was judging myself so hard, I already assumed every one else was judging me as well. I needed tough love but a hug at the same time ya know! I didn't have the courage back then, and I'm pretty smart. Even smart women can act a fool. I agree it's so important to encourage and help each other empower ourselves!

I totally know where you're coming from. When I was 22-24 (still currently 24), there was this one guy I kept giving a chance but with other dudes, I would cut them off immediately the minute they did disrespectful shit. Anywho, I was really forgiving with this guy. And when I told people about him, I would get judged so hard so I stopped talking to people about it. Which wasn't a good idea because I would bottle up all the hurt/thoughts I had about him and become obsessive. It wasn't until I spoke to my therapist about him, that I was able to move on. She didn't insult me or made me feel stupid however she was real with me and told me why he shouldn't be in my life. Had I had another woman who helped me out that same way, I probably would have got over the guy sooner.

We've all acted a fool for men, it's nothing to be ashamed about. We just didn't know any better. Now to continuously be a fool after being warned multiple times...that's not something I can defend.

[Mysticbeauty]

I agree! You may not have a lot in common with someone at first but you never know what you could have in common with them down the road. Also it's good to get to know/work with people who are different than you. It can change your perspective on some things.

Not every one is ready to just show you every thing right away either. We've all been burned and I feel like even with friendships some women aren't going to just put it all on the table right away. It takes time and trust. Things come out eventually. Yes there are soo many perspectives!

[Mysticbeauty]

Yeah I kinda don't like when women just others regarding what they do or how they act in their romantic relationships. Yeah some women do dumb shit but I think it's just being naive as well as being blinded by love that they make those decisions. Instead of tearing women down, we should encourage them to have courage and self love that can help them get out of useless/toxic relationships.

Yes! Absolutely. You said it better than I was going to! I just think back when I was doing dumb shit, settling for less than my worth:I was judging myself so hard, I already assumed every one else was judging me as well. I needed tough love but a hug at the same time ya know! I didn't have the courage back then, and I'm pretty smart. Even smart women can act a fool. I agree it's so important to encourage and help each other empower ourselves!

[OutspokenOne]

Right! I feel you! Honestly if it wasn't for contacts and braces I don't know if I'd be getting the privilege! I have worse eyes than some 80 year Olds. It ain't right!

Oh yes I feel you on that, I have shitty eyes (been wearing glasses since the 4th grade). If I couldn't wear contacts, I wouldn't be able to hypnotize men with my seductive eyes

[OutspokenOne]

We are all very different on here, yet we all have connected over pheromones! There is so many little things like that, which connect us with others, and we overlook them.

I agree! You may not have a lot in common with someone at first but you never know what you could have in common with them down the road. Also it's good to get to know/work with people who are different than you. It can change your perspective on some things.

[Mysticbeauty]

I have a love and hate relationship with pretty privilege. However I still love benefiting from it though

Right! I feel you! Honestly if it wasn't for contacts and braces I don't know if I'd be getting the privilege! I have worse eyes than some 80 year Olds. It ain't right!

[OutspokenOne]

I'm glad you didn't take it offensively. I have to check myself all the time because I have RBF,but like you said sometimes it's just something on your mind that you are focused on. I have a hard time hiding my emotions from my face. I'm always making crazy faces lol. It is hard to hear certain things from young women, I totally get that. Even reading women on here spending extra time and energy on a guy, who isn't reciprocating is hard to read. At the same time though, we've all done things we wish we could change or that we've learned from. So it's best to be compassionate, because we've all been there in one way or another.

Yeah I kinda don't like when women just others regarding what they do or how they act in their romantic relationships. Yeah some women do dumb shit but I think it's just being naive as well as being blinded by love that they make those decisions. Instead of tearing women down, we should encourage them to have courage and self love that can help them get out of useless/toxic relationships.

[OutspokenOne]

Yes there is definitely a "pretty privledge". I usually get along with most men too because they find me attractive and a bunch of other things.

I have a love and hate relationship with pretty privilege. However I still love benefiting from it though

[OutspokenOne]

Yes men have their own issues as well. They get moody, just like women and some need their ego stroked or won't like being under a woman. There is always going to be personality conflicts no matter where or who you are.

Sometimes men can be worse than women. No sex is better/friendlier than the other.

[Mysticbeauty]

We are all very different on here, yet we all have connected over pheromones! There is so many little things like that, which connect us with others, and we overlook them.

[Mysticbeauty]

Always smiling + saying hi. However, I was told by the Asian girl that I have resting bitch face but this was when I was also focused on doing my work and not talking to anyone in the office.


Thanks for really making me think about myself + the energy I'm giving off. The same Asian girl who told me I have RBF also asked me one day if I'm okay because I looked like I'm tired of life, lol. This was also during the time I felt stuck with my manager and she wasn't being communicative to me.


Probably! I don't remember where I posted it but that Latina girl speaking aloud about the whole boyfriend who spends money on his gf thing really rubbed me the wrong way. What are the chances that she's also the youngest of all 3 of us. That just screamed immaturity to me.


Well, the girl who is managing me is a friggin' powerhouse. They all get along with her and like her as well. She's also very sassy. I like her, lol.

I'm glad you didn't take it offensively. I have to check myself all the time because I have RBF,but like you said sometimes it's just something on your mind that you are focused on. I have a hard time hiding my emotions from my face. I'm always making crazy faces lol. It is hard to hear certain things from young women, I totally get that. Even reading women on here spending extra time and energy on a guy, who isn't reciprocating is hard to read. At the same time though, we've all done things we wish we could change or that we've learned from. So it's best to be compassionate, because we've all been there in one way or another.

[Mysticbeauty]

When you're pretty, men are usually easier to socialize with. They are easier to talk to (for me). But also, our conversations haven't been "deep" or anything like that. Actually, I've noticed the Asian girl's manager is sorta starting to ignore me as well, LOL. But yesterday was an interesting day. It was off.


I believe it 100%.

People want to see you doing well, but not better than them.

Yes there is definitely a "pretty privledge". I usually get along with most men too because they find me attractive and a bunch of other things.

[Cheerio]

Never believe men is easier to be social with.

When you're pretty, men are usually easier to socialize with. They are easier to talk to (for me). But also, our conversations haven't been "deep" or anything like that. Actually, I've noticed the Asian girl's manager is sorta starting to ignore me as well, LOL. But yesterday was an interesting day. It was off.

lso they will be even more jealous when you are CEO.

I believe it 100%.

People want to see you doing well, but not better than them.

[Cheerio]

Are you smiling at these women?

Always smiling + saying hi. However, I was told by the Asian girl that I have resting bitch face but this was when I was also focused on doing my work and not talking to anyone in the office.

How is your energy coming off?

Thanks for really making me think about myself + the energy I'm giving off. The same Asian girl who told me I have RBF also asked me one day if I'm okay because I looked like I'm tired of life, lol. This was also during the time I felt stuck with my manager and she wasn't being communicative to me.

If you are already feeling like you have nothing in common with them, they are probably feeling that from you.

Probably! I don't remember where I posted it but that Latina girl speaking aloud about the whole boyfriend who spends money on his gf thing really rubbed me the wrong way. What are the chances that she's also the youngest of all 3 of us. That just screamed immaturity to me.

And don't think for a a second that those guys will be rooting for you if you excel above them.

Well, the girl who is managing me is a friggin' powerhouse. They all get along with her and like her as well. She's also very sassy. I like her, lol.

[Ildergreier]

Also in terms of clothing, if you feel you put in more effort, it's probably more that they are intimidated than jealous.
That's happened to me and I forget all the time I can be intimidating, but then I smile or I'm kind to someone and their guard is let down a bit.

I am in my forties, so I do not care that much about other womens clothes. We have a dress code in our office though, and everybody is slaying it. Can perhaps be intimidating for visitors.