I don't think I ever orgasmed?

[Cheerio]

Hmm, I am going to help you girls, just give me some time.

[siren]

As in how?
Like the same way they say guys jacking off (pardon the crudneess) can mess them up? As in, then you can only get off by yourself because you've got a certain expectation and can no longer get off with a partner?

In a way, yes.

I've noticed after using vibrators that it can cause the following:
- addiction to that type of sensation and orgasm
- loss of sensation after some time, possible nerve damage?
- pain if you use it too often and too long

So, I try not to use my current vibrator very often and I take long breaks after using it.

I've also noticed a G-spot orgasm feels different and less intense than a clitoral orgasm. None of my orgasms are ever very intense unless it's g-spot and clitoral simultaneously, which is rare. ????♀️

[colorfulaura]

I think that's probably a major reason why I haven't tried to put in effort to orgasm by myself or with someone else because I am too lazy to want to put it in the time in getting myself to....I figured it would take @ least more than an hour to get there especially @ the first time.... ;-x

Try to dig into what turns you on. I can make myself orgasm within 20 minutes but it would take about an hour for a man to make me cum because they're typically more impatient which turns me off. Foreplay is the most important part of sex for me since for me, sex is mostly mental. This isn't the case for everyone though. For you, I would read up on books about sexuality. We all have different sexual archetypes. The physical is only one part of sex (or rather the physical is driven by the others). The mental, psychological and emotional parts of sex are even more important in getting you to that point in climax.

I'm reading The Sexual Self now which is really insightful on the psychological urges with sex. Depending on your sexual archetype, you'll have specific desires and triggers that will make it easier for you to climax.

[zeratul]

Cheerio wow, that's deep and thank you for sharing your personal experience.

Aww, you guys enlighten me about female sexuality!

[Cheerio]

Cheerio wow, that's deep and thank you for sharing your personal experience.

Aww, you guys enlighten me about female sexuality!

Of course!
& that's not even all of the story. I've lived an interesting life, but it's all made me who I am. No regrets.
I think if a lot of men weren't so into themselves, they could learn a lot by listening to us.

I hope to find someone who asks me questions instead of assuming. There's nothing wrong with sitting down & listening to what a woman has to say.

[ChocolateMarshmallow]

You say black men do not like to lick (oral), I ENJOY IT!! Actually it us one of the few things I make sure we do, BEFORE having sex, besides raising her expectations, knowing when to caress scratch or nibble (pay attention to her body as it reacts to different stimuli) this can go on for a couple hours, and I will still happily enjoy blue balls.

Why because I know the next time (unless she is selfish, cultural taboos about enjoying or hung up on too many porn movies), she us willing to reciprocate the giving...

Makes for intensive time. Yes we men sometimes, not all the time have a one tract mind (squeeze the breasts, and make beeline to the 101). I also ask if she fantasies about sex and positions.

Knowing her as much before actually taking the dipstick to measure.

If she is relax and is COMFORTABLE, she will normally orgasm (maybe some TAC wisdom help)

CM

[ChocolateMarshmallow]

You say black men do not like to lick (oral), I ENJOY IT!! Actually it us one of the few things I make sure we do, BEFORE having sex, besides raising her expectations, knowing when to caress scratch or nibble (pay attention to her body as it reacts to different stimuli) this can go on for a couple hours, and I will still happily enjoy blue balls.

Why because I know the next time (unless she is selfish, cultural taboos about enjoying or hung up on too many porn movies), she us willing to reciprocate the giving...

Makes for intensive time. Yes we men sometimes, not all the time have a one tract mind (squeeze the breasts, and make beeline to the 101). I also ask if she fantasies about sex and positions.

Knowing her as much before actually taking the dipstick to measure.

If she is relax and is COMFORTABLE, she will normally orgasm (maybe some TAC wisdom help)

CM

[ChocolateMarshmallow]

Sorry about the double entry, tried to put it under one of the response, but timed out.

[Vicki Lee]

You say black men do not like to lick (oral), I ENJOY IT!! Actually it us one of the few things I make sure we do, BEFORE having sex, besides raising her expectations, knowing when to caress scratch or nibble (pay attention to her body as it reacts to different stimuli) this can go on for a couple hours, and I will still happily enjoy blue balls.

Why because I know the next time (unless she is selfish, cultural taboos about enjoying or hung up on too many porn movies), she us willing to reciprocate the giving...

Makes for intensive time. Yes we men sometimes, not all the time have a one tract mind (squeeze the breasts, and make beeline to the 101). I also ask if she fantasies about sex and positions.

Knowing her as much before actually taking the dipstick to measure.

If she is relax and is COMFORTABLE, she will normally orgasm (maybe some TAC wisdom help)

CM

How old are you? It must be a generational thing because... LOL idk whats going on out here with these dudes and the Oral sex double standards.

[ChocolateMarshmallow]

I am 51 turning 52...
It is fun to give your partner the satisfaction...

[colorfulaura]

How old are you? It must be a generational thing because... LOL idk whats going on out here with these dudes and the Oral sex double standards.

Right... If you can't lick it you can't stick it is my rule.

[PumpedUpKids]

Me neither, but it's not a big deal for me.

[Mysticbeauty]

Early 20s here reporting for sex talk duty! I love talking about sex! I think we’re going to get along just fine ????. I’ve been fucking around since 18 and have had my own personal share of Rendezvous.


There was something going around where people *cough* men *cough* use the word ‘cum’ and ‘orgasm’ interchangeably without differentiation and I don’t like it. I think of cumming as another word for orgasming when it comes to modern slang. And you can orgasm without “cumming” which also some people couple the term “cumming/creaming” with “Squirting”.

Majority of women cum from clitoral stimulation if anything else. Me personally I can “cum” aka Orgasm by just using my fingers or a vibrator without having to penetrate myself with a dildo. If you’ve ever laid down in the bed and had fantasies or watched porn while masturbating I think it’s safe to say you’ve had an orgasm before (hopefully?).

Not every orgasm has to be over the edge and earth shattering, usually the most intense ones I’ve had were from building myself up during solo play. Thinking of highly erotic fantasies for a while; for example I’ll rub my breasts/nipples, switch from mental fantasy to visual/auditory porn, edging myself, etc.

Ill never forget one time I was with a dude and the first time we had sex I had squirted on his dick and he was SHOOK ????????????! And then every time after that when we had sex he’d always ask me if the sex was good because I didn’t squirt again after that. Now I hate when I squirt sometimes because I feel a performative pressure like... Dude it was just a hot/intense fuck and not all of them will be on the same level as each other.... To be honest I’ve only had 2 guys make me squirt which I consider a complete orgasm (because I know my body can do it). Not everyone squirts when they have sex and that’s ok. ????????*♀️ Porn has a lot of these dudes minds warped.

I would say I’m ok with not orgasming every time I have sex but... I’m really not. ???????? But that’s just me. Because guys get their nut seamlessly with no effort every time. I’m really not that deep into flings anymore because my body has to have some type of mental connection with someone before I can fuck them... Depending if liquor and or ???? is involved, there’s exceptions to the rules. ????????*♀️ Every time I had sex with a guy I just wished that I had brought my vibrator with me... Not gonna lie, clitoral stimulation is a must and majority of dudes are not stroking pussy and rubbing the clit. Or if they do it’s TOO FUCKING HARD OVER HERE RUBBING IT LIKE A BROKEN JOY STICK, THAT SHIT HURTS BE GENTLE WITH IT!!! They think pounding your vagina with their dick and a few licks on the coochie hole does the trick. Nah. I’m done dealing with lazy motherfuckers.

(S.N. Black men do not eat pussy in my experience and I have been severely playing myself ????????*♀️ With expecting that... Time to taste the rainbow I guess)

Damn girl you just told it like it is! But I agree 100%

[Mysticbeauty]

I do agree that men feel a bit let down or a blow to their ego if the person they're having sex with doesn't have an orgasm. But I also think that men don't know what female orgasms really look like.

Orgasms are more of a sensation. Ejaculation (cumming) is different. Most women don't ejaculate.

I ejaculated on accident once and it freaked me out. I also didn't "feel" anything orgasmic so just plain weird. I'd rather have a regular orgasm.

[Mysticbeauty]

Right... If you can't lick it you can't stick it is my rule.

Beautifully said! Lol????????

[Mysticbeauty]

You say black men do not like to lick (oral), I ENJOY IT!! Actually it us one of the few things I make sure we do, BEFORE having sex, besides raising her expectations, knowing when to caress scratch or nibble (pay attention to her body as it reacts to different stimuli) this can go on for a couple hours, and I will still happily enjoy blue balls.

Why because I know the next time (unless she is selfish, cultural taboos about enjoying or hung up on too many porn movies), she us willing to reciprocate the giving...

Makes for intensive time. Yes we men sometimes, not all the time have a one tract mind (squeeze the breasts, and make beeline to the 101). I also ask if she fantasies about sex and positions.

Knowing her as much before actually taking the dipstick to measure.

If she is relax and is COMFORTABLE, she will normally orgasm (maybe some TAC wisdom help)

CM

Umm could you like tell that to all the decent men in the world. Us ladies would appreciate it!

[Mysticbeauty]

How old are you? It must be a generational thing because... LOL idk whats going on out here with these dudes and the Oral sex double standards.

It is a double standard. And although I love giving head with the right dude, it's way more work. Literally job in in the name hello! Not to mention there a dick in our throat. I. Sure some dudes get tired going down on us but they just need to love and worship our clits. I mean come on. Our bodies should be adored anyway. But I'm bias. ????

[Mysticbeauty]

I am surprised that there has been no post made in this sub forum, but I guess it's up to me to take one for the team in devirginizing this area.... I hope this topic isn't too offensive....If it is, let me know or just delete the topic....I will understand with no hard feelings....

I started having sex before I turned 20 + been masturbating for years before that as of a young kid.... Through all of my sexual experiences including solo ones, I don't think I actually had an orgasm.... If orgasm means cumming.... I am not saying I never enjoy it because I have thoroughly many many times before....I don't think I have ever orgasmed if it involves cumming....I never came.... But, then when i think of it, I don't think I felt an orgasm where it's earth-shattering or how it's been described.... I have just enjoyed it so much to where I feel satisfied without needing something to come out of my body.... Over the years, I have grown comfortable to the fact that I don't need to cum nor orgasm to enjoy sex, but there has been a few men that I have been with who seemed to have feel some kinda way that I don't cum or orgasm thinking it's because the sex wasn't good enough..... Any of you are like me?

I feel like an awkward teenager who doesn't know about sex instead of a 36 year old that I am.... I did happen to just read something online that says cumming + orgasm is different....

I hope I made sense, btw.... A large part of me doesn't feel ashamed that I am lacking in this department, but a tiny part does....;-x

I appreciate your vulnerability. You aren't alone in that for sure. No man has ever given me an orgasm I have to do it myself. However I'm with a man now who would probably be down for making the bedroom our own little classroom. Be patient and keep Experimenting, that's my game plan. Also I found a nice clitoral vibrato that is strong enough to get me off, not too loud, and I don't think it would be intimidating to a man.

[Cheerio]

I don't know if there are any rule against posting this, so I won't directly post it. But if a man doesn't make my body to this, I DO NOT want him & I will never marry, LOL --

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Poor girl looked so confused, like "wtf, again?!"

[siren]

I don't know if there are any rule against posting this, so I won't directly post it. But if a man doesn't make my body to this, I DO NOT want him & I will never marry, LOL --

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Poor girl looked so confused, like "wtf, again?!"

What the fuck? How is it that skinny dudes end up with the hugest cocks?