The friendzone thread

[SecretV]

he has been on one date. In the space of a year. Hardly "dating around"

[lafemme]

he has been on one date. In the space of a year. Hardly "dating around"

is he cute?

[SecretV]

First time I saw him I felt this... Gravitational pull. Like I HAD to get his attention...

To me he's stunning and still takes my breath away some days. Don't think he's everyone's cup of tea I guess.

he's very tall, slim but toned and always well groomed (although his hair has life of its own I swear). He now has a very well groomed beard. I normally don't like facial hair but the way he trims in makes it rather non-offensive. I love his hair, I'm a sucker for long hair though.

I guess his face is really expressive too and while I've never been into dark eyes his are really deep brown and you can really tell how he's feeling when you look at them.

so yeah. He is more than cute. Looks can only get you so far though. It's what brought the attraction on. It's his personality that got me hooked.

[Delight]

After six years of this, there must be a bond that has developed. Does he tell you that he loves you? Does he behave in ways that puts that love for you into action? hopefully I don’t offend, but based on what you said, I don’t get the impression that he values you the way you deserve for a man to value you. He thinks you’re above average in looks, but if he thinks that you mostly attract tossers, that’s not a good impression. If you’re comfortable with this arrangement, than that’s ok. I just think that you deserve better and that you have the most to lose. If he doesn’t love you by now, it’s likely that he never will. Pheromones can illicit feelings, but it’s temporary. If a person doesn’t want to love someone or commit to them, they may actually ignore the feelings that the pheromones send. I think that all you can do is work on yourself. Make yourself better. Don’t let any relationship prevent you from moving forward. These are the best years of your life, once they’re gone, they’re gone for good.

[Ildergreier]

Six years is enough, this man is her drug and she need to stop cold turkey.

[SecretV]

He's never been the one to say "I love you". He picks me up from the airport and takes me for a late night trip for food after a long shift. He fixes things even if I said I'm alright to fix fhem myself. He's helped me through a lot of hard times that I'd rather not go into.
After the shit show with his ex things got a but hectic for a while and while things are mostly back on track there is still a lot of residue.

Ildergreier we've known each other for nearly 6 years. That doesn't mean things were going on between us for all that time. He got into a relationship not long after we met then went to being single for over a year but got dragged under the influence of The VoldeBitch/Slutty O'Whoreass after about 4 months of being single. There's a lot of factors involve and we have both worked in improving as people as well as repairing the damage to our interactions.

I find it sweet how concerned you girls are. I'm not as naive as I might appear though