Hi am Kate and I been married for about 8 years. This year October will make 9.
Two kids later and I feel like I still don't get my husband.
I have been in relationships before and I know I was young but looking back, I feel like they were a lot easier to understand than he is.
We had a bad 2 years to say the least, very rough. Since we moved in March, I feel like things have turned around. He is definitely trying more. Our home is a nicer one.
Business and everything took a dive after Covid19 but he is doing some gardening and still pressing on to bring home the bacon. Some days are ok but these days or most days we are barely making it.
He is doing better with responsibilities and trying to do tasks and stuff but I feel a great distance between us. When I try to reach that gap, he reciprocates but it feels very mechanical.
I feel the connection lost. I myself suffering from lots of insecurities from just having two babies in the last two years and the emotional rollercoaster we been on for so long.
However, I know he is a good man so I want to fight for my relationship and family. I figured the best thing to try to understand him is to get advice from the men here.
I know what you guys gonna say but trust me. I have asked him and he is always in his head and he is the type of person to tell you what you want to hear cuz he doesn't want to offend you than the truth.
I would like an open , honest even if it seems harsh discussion, thoughts , experiences to see what works. I know it will take time but my attempt is to crack the code when it comes to understanding this man of mine.
Two kids later and I feel like I still don't get my husband.
I have been in relationships before and I know I was young but looking back, I feel like they were a lot easier to understand than he is.
We had a bad 2 years to say the least, very rough. Since we moved in March, I feel like things have turned around. He is definitely trying more. Our home is a nicer one.
Business and everything took a dive after Covid19 but he is doing some gardening and still pressing on to bring home the bacon. Some days are ok but these days or most days we are barely making it.
He is doing better with responsibilities and trying to do tasks and stuff but I feel a great distance between us. When I try to reach that gap, he reciprocates but it feels very mechanical.
I feel the connection lost. I myself suffering from lots of insecurities from just having two babies in the last two years and the emotional rollercoaster we been on for so long.
However, I know he is a good man so I want to fight for my relationship and family. I figured the best thing to try to understand him is to get advice from the men here.
I know what you guys gonna say but trust me. I have asked him and he is always in his head and he is the type of person to tell you what you want to hear cuz he doesn't want to offend you than the truth.
I would like an open , honest even if it seems harsh discussion, thoughts , experiences to see what works. I know it will take time but my attempt is to crack the code when it comes to understanding this man of mine.
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