Pheros for Having a Talk/ Argument

[Suaviter in modo]

Yes let the pastor take care of her. Meet with the pastor first with some nice friendly trust inducing pheromones (Api, P74 etc) and form a mutual understanding with him, and then be the good and understanding but badly treated guy in your tripartite meeting, that will disarm her properly. Why not just ignore her by the way? She seems like a person on whom you wouldn't want to waste time or energy.

[Suaviter in modo]

That would probably work best, though the alpha thing Primross is proposing (without caring about the reaction) could be really energizing and perhaps feel really good. Sometimes standing up for yourself can be worth it even if someone doesn't like it. I mean who is she to be treating people that way? That´s another take on this I guess.

[Jinnph]

I can't comment on what pheros would work best in this situation, but as someone who makes a living working with people in intense emotional/social situations, I've got to ask:

What are you trying to get out of this?

It's one thing if this is someone you have to regularly interact with, or makes it a regular thing to come and agitate you.

On the other hand, if this is someone you find frustrating, you don't have a reason to interact, and you have to have a third party involved if you are going to interact, why are you? This might be a situation where the best solution is to walk away, take the high road, and cut something toxic from your life.

Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, but that's how I'm reading this.

[Suaviter in modo]

Jinnph that sounds like the best solution yes if possible!

[Primross]

I can't comment on what pheros would work best in this situation, but as someone who makes a living working with people in intense emotional/social situations, I've got to ask:

What are you trying to get out of this?

It's one thing if this is someone you have to regularly interact with, or makes it a regular thing to come and agitate you.

On the other hand, if this is someone you find frustrating, you don't have a reason to interact, and you have to have a third party involved if you are going to interact, why are you? This might be a situation where the best solution is to walk away, take the high road, and cut something toxic from your life.

Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, but that's how I'm reading this.

Basically if this is the same chick from mannys other posts he's been going after her for a while.

Manny all I can say is this is oneitis at it's finest and as hard as it seems you need to move on. If a woman isn't interested she's extremely unlikely to change her mind. There's millions of women to meet don't get hung up on one that Doesn't want you.

[Jinnph]

Basically if this is the same chick from mannys other posts he's been going after her for a while.

Manny all I can say is this is oneitis at it's finest and as hard as it seems you need to move on. If a woman isn't interested she's extremely unlikely to change her mind. There's millions of women to meet don't get hung up on one that Doesn't want you.

I won't presume to know the situation. I will say that if the situation has so degraded to the point where she thinks your a dick, feels the need to insult you, requires a third party... much as you might want her, I wouldn't bet on her wanting you. And trying to make someone feel bad/sorry almost never works. Unless she's already invested in you, it's just going to be an excuse for her to act out more, and if she is invested (and it doesn't sound like it) it's more likely to set up additional resentment than any positive situation. No one likes to be made to feel bad, and very few people have the insight to recognize when their own behavior is the cause.

[Primross]

I won't presume to know the situation. I will say that if the situation has so degraded to the point where she thinks your a dick, feels the need to insult you, requires a third party... much as you might want her, I wouldn't bet on her wanting you. And trying to make someone feel bad/sorry almost never works. Unless she's already invested in you, it's just going to be an excuse for her to act out more, and if she is invested (and it doesn't sound like it) it's more likely to set up additional resentment than any positive situation. No one likes to be made to feel bad, and very few people have the insight to recognize when their own behavior is the cause.

Exactly

Basically we are saying move on. There's a million other women out there

[Muestereate]

Sometimes you have to move on. It sounds like bridges are burning. It may be better to slip down the road and let them put their fires out. No use ruining a church.

[Coconut]

when women aren't interested move on!
as said above there are millions of other women that might be interested!

[Devin1Neil]

Connections + Comply but I'm not sure. It really depends on what you're trying to do in the conversation.

[manover84]

I haven’t been on in a while, but I left in August. I can go anywhere and play so I’m not worried.

[manover84]

Just got back from vacation with a renewed mindset, there are millions of women, I’m not settling.

[Phaethon]

Just got back from vacation with a renewed mindset, there are millions of women, I’m not settling.

That is good news!

[Bloodburn]

Just got back from vacation with a renewed mindset, there are millions of women, I’m not settling.

Welcome back! I just moved on from one lady I thought I could settle down with as well.

[manover84]

That is good news!

It was just time

[manover84]

Welcome back! I just moved on from one lady I thought I could settle down with as well.

Thanks brother, it's a tough call to make, but I'd rather give up good for great.