Article: Can science explain the mystery of love?

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Can science explain the mystery of love?

One of life’s greatest mysteries may be the question of what it is that attracts one person to another.

One answer offered by science is scent. Osmology is the science of smell research, attraction via chemical messengers called pheromones. According to studies, pheromones signal desire, sexual readiness, hormone levels, fertility and emotion.

The word pheromone has Greek origins. It is a compilation of two words: pherein (to bring or transfer) and hormone (excite). Pheromones are olfactory, detected by the nose and delivered through the skin, sweat glands and saliva.

Dr. Jamuna Theventhiran, a psychiatrist at Portsmouth Regional Hospital said attraction is about science.

“What initiates attraction is neuroscience,” Theventhiran said. “It really is more abut the brain than the heart. When we see someone we are attracted to, the brain releases dopamine, serotonin and epinephrine. These are mood elevators and we perceive elation and form attachments. These are the first stages of love.”

Theventhiran said it can be tough to say what triggers attraction, but she adds the pull can be like a drug. The difference between love and lust is easier to say.

“Lust tends to dissipate once the initial attraction is satisfied,” Theventhiran said. “Love stays, maybe not forever but for much longer than lust. It is like the bond between a baby and a mother.”

Men and women, and what they are generally attracted to, are very different.

“Women are attracted to money and power,” Theventhiran said. “What a man’s status is, what he does is important. Men are attracted to beauty, to the promise of fertility. That’s why we see a lot of older men with so-called trophy wives.”

Still, what one person finds attractive is not going to be what another person sees as sexy, she said.
So, in the interest of less precise but more interesting points of view, area residents answered a Facebook poll question: “What does sexy mean to you?”


Full article available at source: seacoastonline.com
By Karen Dandurant

[KIMBA]

To answer your question, yes. Many love theories have existed for years.

Without revealing my whole PUA system, my entire area of study began with a social psych text book, a psych text book, and this theory:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love

[KateD]

Interesting read. I don't totally agree with it but it was insightful none the less. Something caught my attention though : "What is sexy to you"

I don't see a lot of activity from women on this forum as yet but I would love to for someone to open a pole/thread on this topic and see what everyone has to say.


As a woman who is no longer in her 20's, married with kiddies. I try to always look sexy and be sexually out there for my husband but attraction can't just be about physical.

Is personality ever sexy to a man or is that just a woman?

[Dignify]

Honestly Kate? I'm into personality more than looks. I know this sounds weird coming from a guy, but yeah... I really want to be with someone that I can have fun with, be cuddly and carefree with and I know that I can be myself around and having both of us understand each other and have sort of that click together. For me, that is sexier than looks can ever be.

I'm not demeaning looks, of course I care about looks as well. But I'd end up with a normal beauty girl that all the things up apply than a supermodel with no brains.

[KateD]

Yes,super weird coming from a guy

[Magnus]

Personality can take a awesome looking woman and make her look ugly, and a average looking woman and make her look awesome.

People are a whole package, not just skin and shape symmetry and chemicals. Although I acknowledge that some chemicals change personality. lol

[XSteveO]

I'm vain as hell when it comes to sex. However while I love the female body a smile and laugh is hugely important to me.

[KateD]

Totally believe it lol

[Magnus]

I have my own particulars as well. I like short petite women, preferably blonde and pale.

[KateD]

Thanks for the input, truly appreciated. I guess we all have our physical preference. I just wonder how important it is with a man vs a woman.

[Magnus]

Well, this girl I fell in love with likes men who are younger than her and who are shorter than I am......sucks for me...lol

[KIMBA]

Love does not discriminate. As long as the right factors allign, it is love. Tried and true and I match PUA techniques to it.

I have been with 'models', '10's', College 'Cheerleaders', and so on. The weird thing is, 'SUPER HOT' girls come with a crap ton of baggage and attitude. Self confidence issues, trust issues, often strange perceptual filters, etc.

Now I see it as I would or I wouldnt. I know how to arouse myself and a woman. I can teach a partner to satisfy me. It comes down to feeling something and a personality now.

But this is because I ran the gauntlet of being a man whore for a while.

Kate, arousing a man is simple. But a guy needs to be in the mood and not exhausted. Fairly simple. Visual stimulation or direct stimulation will work on a guy.

Does personality count?

The most arousing thing to a man is a nice girl, who is a closet freak for you. A woman who will talk dirty to you and tell you what she wants.

Attraction, scientifically comes down to, surprisingly, various forms of commonality. So, utimately, like hobbies, life's, futures, interests are attractive.

People are also attracted to what they cant have, in a micro scale, that would be playful teasing (Physical) and a little hard to get. This begs to the saying of playing hard to get and also to the woman to leads a guy on until he cant take it.