Obsessions with my ex

[Primross]

My bad how dare I assume a gender in this day and age shame in me. Well my advice still stands

[blue.manhattan]

Oh no honey boo boo.

You gotta forget her. Move on and imporve yourself being single is great!!

is a HE. I know I gotta. I just don't know how.

[Primross]

Oh no honey boo boo.

You gotta forget her. Move on and imporve yourself being single is great!!

[Muestereate]

Music is a wonderful Balm

[daydreambeliever]

For me, only time and music therapy works. I start out with a playlist about letting someone go and eventually move on to a playlist with songs about deserving better.

For example:

Kiss My Grits songs:
Diablo - Simon Curtis (original 8Bit Heart version)
You F O - Stela Cole
Ugly Heart - G.R.L.
Sorry Not Sorry - Demi Lovato
Part of Me - Katy Perry
Good as Hell - Lizzo
Hell No - Ingrid Michaelson
Gonna Get Over You - Sara Bareilles (love this video)
Since U Been Gone - Kelly Clarkson
Truth Hurts - Lizzo

I Deserve Better songs:
I Love Me - Meghan Trainor
Soulmate - Lizzo
Makin' A Move - Lady Bri
Wonder Woman - Lion Babe
Dust My Shoulders Off - Jane Zhang
Worship - Lizzo
Dime - Rachel Crow
Confident - Demi Lovato
Juice - Lizzo
Treat Myself - Meghan Trainor

[Muestereate]

Interesting conflicts. You miss him and hate him at the same time? That may seem irrational but I assure you that obsession and resentment are close cousins. Another emotion you described is envy. It's a bit different than jealousy over just things. Envy is about wanting to be that person or to be in their place. The place is having what you want but you don't want to be judged as bad.

Your obsession isn't really over him, it is about justice. "Bad people get what they want all the time" FIrst lets get rid of the word all. Bad people do not get what they want ALL the time. Can you think of and Bad people that didn't get what they wanted?

And a second thought is about the word bad. They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, well the same goes for good and bad. If you are not talking about pure evil malevolence, one person good can be another's bad and vice-versa. Can you think of anything in your own life that you once thought was bad but now seems to be good? For instance, I was taught sex was bad but once I tried it, it thought it was good.

Even if this didn't help I'll stick with the idea that the obsession is not about the man but about the things he represents or conflicts. Try separating them.

[blue.manhattan]

Both. He pretended to be a
friend for a while, We
fucked and he vanished... I miss his friendship but I know he is a player. I miss him anyways and I kinda hate that he here everything he wants in life. Why this seems to happens? Like bad people hets his way all the time?

[Muestereate]

What is it you keep remembering, was it a particular behavior or was it a certain emotion you felt?

[blue.manhattan]

[zeratul]

Maybe he used imprinting mones when he was with you?

Well, quick suggestion: because you keep thinking about him all the time, perhaps you make yourself busier or doing more activities such as joining gym, or participating in social gathering more. That would help to shift your focus to the activity instead of your ex.

[blue.manhattan]