"Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you." Excerpt from Genesis 3:16.
So, Nu, (you may be asking,) WTH?
This topic will be about men and women's expectation/perception of sexism and chovanism, conscious and subconscious no matter how PC the environment.
There are lots, I'm just listing a few...
Generalisms: a few of the things men and women have in common.
Can be excellent leaders
Intelligent
Intuitive
Ability to nurture
Generalisms: we're different. We are. Fact.
We think differently
We approach sex differently
Physically, not just strength and appearance. Hormonally. (Example: women can have babies...but we can't do that without men, sure there's artificial insemination, but somewhere there still needed to be a man to make that happen )
This whole topic is based on Generalisms. I know there are always exceptions.
So why am I even writing about this? We already know all about it, right? Sexism and chovanism?
Men have always loved women...
We're pleasing to the eye.
Sex is always nice.
Connection is wonderful, for those seeking g it...
There's a sense of pride in having a family and being a good provider.
Since antiquity, women have known their appearance and bodies (for sex and/or procreation) are pleasing to men.
Generally, like it or not, we are the weaker sex. Not meaning inferior, just meaning generally, in a fist fight or in war, women will get the short end of that stick.
Geneally, we don't like to talk about our objectification and yet we feed into it constantly (at least here in the US).
Women know what men like/want and I, myself, think it's wise for women to recognize it and admit it instead of pretending we can be "equal". Ooooooo SNAP! Say WHAAAAA!? I stand by my statement and I see women constantly feeding into it.
Oh. We are equals. Intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, we are completely equals. Women can lead, rule and prosper as well and as efficiently as men (often we do, as co-regents in the wings from beside, or behind, our men) but we are rarely afforded that leadership position out front. It's not just a percentage thing about fewer numbers of women being CEOs or presidents/leaders of countries, of course there are women in positions like this, and doing fabulously there.
???????But honestly, if we can be honest, many women rarely want that kind of elevated authority. The majority of us are content, for the most part, to let men rule. We want to be acknowledged as capable, but our hearts, yes, our hearts, and bodies (hormonally and emotionally) are geared for relationship - spiritual, lover, family, community.
Women who are not yet mothers may or may not truly understand this yet, no offense intended.
So what's that to do with, "Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."?
Some of it may be a percieved view of men's seeming independence. After all, men aren't hindered by monthly hormonal changes, and sometimes limitations, caused every 28days or so...
Social expections for provision and leadership seem to automatically fall on men first. How many women choose to be single moms? How many women lament the inability of a man to be a father and provider? Here's a tougher question. It takes 2 to have a baby. If a woman wasn't really prepared to be the provider of a family, and she really believes men and women are equal, why have sex and take the chance of getting pregnant? Really? Why does she need a man to do for herself what she thinks she can provide for herself? Unless somewhere inside she really does believe that men should, step up, be a father and provider...? A silent, unspoken, maybe even unrecognized subconscious desire...
What about respect? There seems to be an acknowledgement, mutual behavior, amongst men of respect. While it's PC to say women are respected, and often we are, women are still more objectified by men than men by women. And women feed into that. Women know men are drawn by the eyes. Women know that men open up to attractiveness and warmth, so we make ourselves look nice and project openess, friendliness and sometimes indulge in coy interactions.
All this to say, women do desire men.
For their attention, their provision, their respect, their leadership, their companionship.
We actually are ok with the trade off. If we are honest, we will lay down our lives for a man who provides well for us spiritually, emotionally and physically. Because that kind of relationship really is co-equal.
When you first read, "Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you," it sounds like a slam. But really, if we're willing to be honest, that's exactly what most women really want. Because while that kind of guy takes a leadership role (aka, rule), it's only to, and for, the woman's benefit. And when he does it right, a woman will never feel less than him in the way that a term like "rule over" is normally perceived.
Unfortunately this world has things twisted.
Selfishness drives most people, men and women, to put themselves first at the expense of others instead of considering one another's benefit. This is why so many spend so much time on perception and appearance. Too many people are looking to get the most out of someone else to benefit themselves.
Sadly, it's been that way since antiquity.
But, hey, knowing is half the battle, right?
So, yeah. Sexism and chovanism is for realz yo. But it's not as one sided as many would have us believe.
So, Nu, (you may be asking,) WTH?
This topic will be about men and women's expectation/perception of sexism and chovanism, conscious and subconscious no matter how PC the environment.
There are lots, I'm just listing a few...
Generalisms: a few of the things men and women have in common.
Can be excellent leaders
Intelligent
Intuitive
Ability to nurture
Generalisms: we're different. We are. Fact.
We think differently
We approach sex differently
Physically, not just strength and appearance. Hormonally. (Example: women can have babies...but we can't do that without men, sure there's artificial insemination, but somewhere there still needed to be a man to make that happen )
This whole topic is based on Generalisms. I know there are always exceptions.
So why am I even writing about this? We already know all about it, right? Sexism and chovanism?
Men have always loved women...
We're pleasing to the eye.
Sex is always nice.
Connection is wonderful, for those seeking g it...
There's a sense of pride in having a family and being a good provider.
Since antiquity, women have known their appearance and bodies (for sex and/or procreation) are pleasing to men.
Generally, like it or not, we are the weaker sex. Not meaning inferior, just meaning generally, in a fist fight or in war, women will get the short end of that stick.
Geneally, we don't like to talk about our objectification and yet we feed into it constantly (at least here in the US).
Women know what men like/want and I, myself, think it's wise for women to recognize it and admit it instead of pretending we can be "equal". Ooooooo SNAP! Say WHAAAAA!? I stand by my statement and I see women constantly feeding into it.
Oh. We are equals. Intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, we are completely equals. Women can lead, rule and prosper as well and as efficiently as men (often we do, as co-regents in the wings from beside, or behind, our men) but we are rarely afforded that leadership position out front. It's not just a percentage thing about fewer numbers of women being CEOs or presidents/leaders of countries, of course there are women in positions like this, and doing fabulously there.
???????But honestly, if we can be honest, many women rarely want that kind of elevated authority. The majority of us are content, for the most part, to let men rule. We want to be acknowledged as capable, but our hearts, yes, our hearts, and bodies (hormonally and emotionally) are geared for relationship - spiritual, lover, family, community.
Women who are not yet mothers may or may not truly understand this yet, no offense intended.
So what's that to do with, "Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."?
Some of it may be a percieved view of men's seeming independence. After all, men aren't hindered by monthly hormonal changes, and sometimes limitations, caused every 28days or so...
Social expections for provision and leadership seem to automatically fall on men first. How many women choose to be single moms? How many women lament the inability of a man to be a father and provider? Here's a tougher question. It takes 2 to have a baby. If a woman wasn't really prepared to be the provider of a family, and she really believes men and women are equal, why have sex and take the chance of getting pregnant? Really? Why does she need a man to do for herself what she thinks she can provide for herself? Unless somewhere inside she really does believe that men should, step up, be a father and provider...? A silent, unspoken, maybe even unrecognized subconscious desire...
What about respect? There seems to be an acknowledgement, mutual behavior, amongst men of respect. While it's PC to say women are respected, and often we are, women are still more objectified by men than men by women. And women feed into that. Women know men are drawn by the eyes. Women know that men open up to attractiveness and warmth, so we make ourselves look nice and project openess, friendliness and sometimes indulge in coy interactions.
All this to say, women do desire men.
For their attention, their provision, their respect, their leadership, their companionship.
We actually are ok with the trade off. If we are honest, we will lay down our lives for a man who provides well for us spiritually, emotionally and physically. Because that kind of relationship really is co-equal.
When you first read, "Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you," it sounds like a slam. But really, if we're willing to be honest, that's exactly what most women really want. Because while that kind of guy takes a leadership role (aka, rule), it's only to, and for, the woman's benefit. And when he does it right, a woman will never feel less than him in the way that a term like "rule over" is normally perceived.
Unfortunately this world has things twisted.
Selfishness drives most people, men and women, to put themselves first at the expense of others instead of considering one another's benefit. This is why so many spend so much time on perception and appearance. Too many people are looking to get the most out of someone else to benefit themselves.
Sadly, it's been that way since antiquity.
But, hey, knowing is half the battle, right?
So, yeah. Sexism and chovanism is for realz yo. But it's not as one sided as many would have us believe.
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