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Originally posted by eternitys_child View Post
Nothing at all to do with gender roles in the community as in males having status while women are not holding as much status..... It really isn't. I just don't think the female psychology and/or biology is designed for the sisterhood type of bonding.
Also, by biology and psychology? Citations? Women by nature are much more social than men...so psychologically women should be the ones who are able to forge stronger communal bonds with one another.
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Originally posted by Isis View Post
I disagree. If women were not socially conditioned to be valued for their appearance cattiness between women would decrease exponentially. If you read the accounts of the women who posted in this thread, they're deterred from forming friendships due to catty behavior between women. I'm a woman, I know where this behavior stems from.
Also, by biology and psychology? Citations? Women by nature are much more social than men...so psychologically women should be the ones who are able to forge stronger communal bonds with one another.
With that being said, I think we need to take into account the social conditioning you mention, because that's just the reality of society. Whether it be wrong or right is a different story. But yes, in my experience, the very same cattiness you and the other women on this thread have mentioned is precisely the reason where I draw my archetypal viewpoint from.
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Originally posted by eternitys_child View Post
With that being said, I think we need to take into account the social conditioning you mention, because that's just the reality of society. Whether it be wrong or right is a different story. But yes, in my experience, the very same cattiness you and the other women on this thread have mentioned is precisely the reason where I draw my archetypal viewpoint from.
If women were commonly found in positions of power and were praised and coveted for those reasons, our sense value wouldn't lie so heavily on appearance. Women's self critical inner voice wouldn't tear another woman's appearance down because she would value herself in other ways.
And in terms of conniving, back stabbing and manipulation being the reason for the difficulty in finding a sisterhood; this absolutely does have to do with women "not holding as much status". These tactics have been used historically by women to achieve success under the stigma of being the "weaker sex". Just take a look at women who try to be direct in the way a man would be. They are labeled ball busters or diminished for not fitting societal beauty standards.
Again, if women werent criticized for not being feminine enough and were commonly found in positions of power or in your words, "held status" equal to or more than men, catty behavior would be less prevalent
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Of the pheros I've tried, only Celebrity has made women act negatively towards me (but men loooove it on me).
I normally get along really well with women, I definitely believe in womanly bonding! It makes me sad that you guys have had predominately negative relationships with women. I think one thing that has really helped me in this is appreciating the value in the archetypal femininity. It's become a pretty dirty word in society because feeling, tenderness, and receptivity are often viewed as inferior to masculine qualities like logic, toughness, and goal-orientation. But femininity has a lot of good qualities, and a healthy person and society needs both to flourish.
To add to the intellectual discussion, I read a paper from an evolutionary psychology perspective whose premise was that each sex has their own "hierarchy" where competition ensues for sexual selection. The most brutal competition between females was observed in polyandrous species, whereas polygynous species typically had much less competition. Here's the link is anyone is curious.During the latter half of the last century, evidence of reproductive competition between males and male selection by females led to the development of a stereotypical view of sex differences that characterized males as competitive and aggressive, and females as passive and choosy, which is currently being revised. Here, we compare social competition and its consequences for selection in males and females and argue that similar selection processes operate in both sexes and that contrasts between the sexes are quantitative rather than qualitative. We suggest that classifications of selection based on distinction between the form of competition or the components of fitness that are involved introduce unnecessary complexities and that the most useful approach in understanding the evolution and distribution of differences and similarities between the sexes is to compare the operation of selection in males and females in different reproductive systems.
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Originally posted by eternitys_child View PostI retract my triggering statements as it seems to have derailed the point of contributing my experience.
You sounded absolutely sure that catty behavior did not evolve from women living in a male dominated society and in fact comes from women not being "biologically" or "psychologically" capable of widely forming loyal bonds with one another. I addressed your statement. Not sure where you're getting the sense of "derailment".
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Originally posted by Isis View Post
My statements definitely pertained to your previous comment and did not derail.
You sounded absolutely sure that catty behavior did not evolve from women living in a male dominated society and in fact comes from women not being "biologically" or "psychologically" capable of widely forming loyal bonds with one another. I addressed your statement. Not sure where you're getting the sense of "derailment".Arsenal
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because i stated that i defer to science if they could and would prove me wrong regarding that. the point of discussion was regarding the way things are regarding sisterhood and it seems we got off from that and into something different.
What happened to the Sisterhood? In her all-female company, Samantha Brick witnessed the bitching, backbiting and conflict that eventually brought her company to its knees.
#sisterhood
TL;DR: It was an idealistic vision swiftly shattered by the nightmare reality: constant bitchiness, surging hormones, unchecked emotion, attention-seeking and fashion rivalry so fierce it tore my staff apart.
My deputy, Sarah, the general manager, first showed how much style mattered when she advertised for an office assistant and refused to hire the best-qualified girl because she could not distinguish Missoni from Marc Jacobs.
#leadership
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Originally posted by SecretV View Postback on track. I found that babe can make some women rather stand offish
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Originally posted by Bosrel View PostI recently confessed my feelings to a girl at work that I had been completely infatuated with and it kills you that they are with someone else and not you.
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Originally posted by lafemme View Post
There's a pattern, and he seems to love the drama. Why not "fall in love" with someone who at least thinks of you in a romantic way? Would you find it unappealing for a woman to think of you as more than "a friend?" or do you prefer a tragic experience? You're so very handsome, so what's the struggle?
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Originally posted by SecretV View Postback on track. I found that babe can make some women rather stand offishArsenal
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Originally posted by SecretV View Postback on track. I found that babe can make some women rather stand offishCurrent Arsenal:
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