Hi all, I just joined here, but have been using 'mone for years. Was active on another site, but found this site and you guys rock!
so, I just put in my first order here (Love boat, limitless, glow, Xist, Madame & Connections) (wish list of samples from BabeXS, Innocence, Sweetness and Sexy Confidence)
Here is my dilemma (warning... VERY LONG! proceed at your own risk!)
There is a guy (isnt there always a guy??
)
We worked together years ago, didn't really know each other then. Fast forward 16 years & I get a job in a new town and move there. Its his town. I am now divorced, he was widowed about 3 years ago. I move down the street from him, and right next door to his best friend.
We start running into each other at different events around town.
We get along very well. I get invited to cookouts at the neighbors, it is obvious that the neighbor is trying to throw us together. The crush is an introvert and shy. But every time we are together we always end up huddled side by side having these deep philosophical or 'feeling' based conversations. One time at a cookout, I went in to get another glass of wine and when I came out everyone had played musical chairs and the only available seat was next to the crush.
At one point i pulled my neighbor aside and asked him to calm down a bit on the fixing up since I felt it made the crush uncomfortable
"no it doesnt"
"Yes, I think it puts him in an awkward position"
"nope, he is ok with it"
So the more i get to know him, the more I like him. He is such a good person and dad, smart,funny. So basically i am falling for him.He has not put himself out there since his wifes death. (cancer, very traumatic for him and his son)
One week right before Christmas he texted me that he had visited my old boss from where he still work, in the hospital. I didnt know she was in, I went to see her and the first thing she asked me was "are you and X dating?"
"No, why?"
"all he did was talk about how great you are."
hmmmm
Later that week he took a mutual friend out to lunch (business stuff) and again, "Why is M single? She is amazing, perfect..blah blah blah.."
My friend , who i think suspects I may be crushing on him, goes "Why don't you ask her out?"
"shes not my type"
I was crushed.
He had given me so many mixed signals.Whenever we are in the same room at events or somewhere I always catch him looking at me, and then looks away. Sometimes I had seen him staring at me, then when i go over to say hi (as in at a restaurant, pub...) he acts surprised and goes "Oh hey! I didnt know you were here..."
so a few days later he started texting me to see what my plans were for Christmas ( he was away visiting family) and I just rattled off stuff and then said "Oh and I have a date"
He went radio silence for a few hours. Then later at night I got a text that only said "I hope he is kind"
The night of my supposed date, he texts me at 11 pm to see how it went (not normal behavior)
then continued to text me every few days during his vacation to see how my "guy" was.
We have had many conversations, one culminating this past weekend. I asked him if he was going to an art opening that i and some other friends was in and he asked if X. and I were going ?I said I didnt know about X, i had not spoken to her in a few weeks, but I could find out.
"no, dont ask her. I am going"
He shows up, i see him looking at me, it was sooo crowded, by the time i got out of the conversation to go and say hi, he had left!
anyways I text him to ask why he left without saying hi. He said it was too crowded, he was having dinner with his son.
we continued to text till midnight. He talked about how he had no intention of ever opening up his heart, because then he would never get hurt again.But i did ask him what his type was
Mediterranean
smart
independent
grounded
and tall would be the cherry on top (he is 6'7")
well i am olive skinned, green eyes, dark hair, smart and independent. BUT i am only 5'4"
He is killing me with all the mixed messages.
I will see him at a fundraiser on the 16th and plan on kind of confronting him (after fortifying myself with a glass of wine or two.)
but I want to stack the deck in my favor.
any advice for pheromones to wear? My order will be here by then. and I have other pheromones form before
(P96, P81, ISa P78, TAL P104, Puppy Love)
Whoever got to the end.. THANK YOU for the patience to read this!
lol
so, I just put in my first order here (Love boat, limitless, glow, Xist, Madame & Connections) (wish list of samples from BabeXS, Innocence, Sweetness and Sexy Confidence)
Here is my dilemma (warning... VERY LONG! proceed at your own risk!)
There is a guy (isnt there always a guy??

We worked together years ago, didn't really know each other then. Fast forward 16 years & I get a job in a new town and move there. Its his town. I am now divorced, he was widowed about 3 years ago. I move down the street from him, and right next door to his best friend.
We start running into each other at different events around town.
We get along very well. I get invited to cookouts at the neighbors, it is obvious that the neighbor is trying to throw us together. The crush is an introvert and shy. But every time we are together we always end up huddled side by side having these deep philosophical or 'feeling' based conversations. One time at a cookout, I went in to get another glass of wine and when I came out everyone had played musical chairs and the only available seat was next to the crush.

At one point i pulled my neighbor aside and asked him to calm down a bit on the fixing up since I felt it made the crush uncomfortable
"no it doesnt"
"Yes, I think it puts him in an awkward position"
"nope, he is ok with it"
So the more i get to know him, the more I like him. He is such a good person and dad, smart,funny. So basically i am falling for him.He has not put himself out there since his wifes death. (cancer, very traumatic for him and his son)
One week right before Christmas he texted me that he had visited my old boss from where he still work, in the hospital. I didnt know she was in, I went to see her and the first thing she asked me was "are you and X dating?"
"No, why?"
"all he did was talk about how great you are."
hmmmm
Later that week he took a mutual friend out to lunch (business stuff) and again, "Why is M single? She is amazing, perfect..blah blah blah.."
My friend , who i think suspects I may be crushing on him, goes "Why don't you ask her out?"
"shes not my type"
I was crushed.
He had given me so many mixed signals.Whenever we are in the same room at events or somewhere I always catch him looking at me, and then looks away. Sometimes I had seen him staring at me, then when i go over to say hi (as in at a restaurant, pub...) he acts surprised and goes "Oh hey! I didnt know you were here..."
so a few days later he started texting me to see what my plans were for Christmas ( he was away visiting family) and I just rattled off stuff and then said "Oh and I have a date"
He went radio silence for a few hours. Then later at night I got a text that only said "I hope he is kind"
The night of my supposed date, he texts me at 11 pm to see how it went (not normal behavior)
then continued to text me every few days during his vacation to see how my "guy" was.
We have had many conversations, one culminating this past weekend. I asked him if he was going to an art opening that i and some other friends was in and he asked if X. and I were going ?I said I didnt know about X, i had not spoken to her in a few weeks, but I could find out.
"no, dont ask her. I am going"
He shows up, i see him looking at me, it was sooo crowded, by the time i got out of the conversation to go and say hi, he had left!

anyways I text him to ask why he left without saying hi. He said it was too crowded, he was having dinner with his son.
we continued to text till midnight. He talked about how he had no intention of ever opening up his heart, because then he would never get hurt again.But i did ask him what his type was
Mediterranean
smart
independent
grounded
and tall would be the cherry on top (he is 6'7")
well i am olive skinned, green eyes, dark hair, smart and independent. BUT i am only 5'4"
He is killing me with all the mixed messages.
I will see him at a fundraiser on the 16th and plan on kind of confronting him (after fortifying myself with a glass of wine or two.)
but I want to stack the deck in my favor.
any advice for pheromones to wear? My order will be here by then. and I have other pheromones form before
(P96, P81, ISa P78, TAL P104, Puppy Love)
Whoever got to the end.. THANK YOU for the patience to read this!
lol
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