Beta - Alpha male. Can this happen?

[KateD]

My hubby is not the alpha , take charge type. I believe I mentioned that in my journal. He tends to be very laid back and just thinks that everything is going to fix itself or work out without much effort on his part. In addition, if something gets to difficult he is most likely to back down. Roll all of that up in a fear or rejection wrap because of his ex who totally killed his manhood and made him feel like nothing.

I know that with me his confidence has grown , he tries to be more take charge but it is so rare and not consistent that it causes me to be overly aggressive and frustrated sometimes. As you can imagine, that outburst causes a relapse on his progress and I am not sure what I can do and how long it will take to get him to dominant me the way I want him to.

Saying out loud now it seems kind of silly. I mean, I guess you can't change someone's personality. I however always believed it is not in a true mans nature to be otherwise. Circumstances and fear may cause him to act like that but deep down inside every man has a lion waiting to be released.

HELP!

[Pheroboss]

Apart from Pheros for same.

Meditation can help him release his fear and negativity related to challenges, but surely it cant do anything in bringing out dominance, rather meditation can take him away from dominance.
Still I would say give it a try, divide whole task into two parts, first : Upbringing his confidence and loosing negativity. Second part : dominance thing, it can come only after he has gained much confidence in up taking task.
For mediation, I would say look for a Art of Living center near you, ?if there is .

[RTBoss]

Would he be willing to try the Absolute Self Confidence subliminal over at IML? (subliminal-talk.com/subliminal-shop.com) It's free, and it'll prove how effective subliminals are to both of you. It may also give him a leg up on continuing his journey to bring out the inner lion!

[fdesa12]

Not an expert on subliminals so take my input with a shovel of salt (ha! new one!). I've tried Real Subliminals and subs from Subliminal Shop. They seem to work really well when limited to 2 max. Anymore and nothing worked for me from Real Subs.

From what I've learned though, don't mix subliminals around so quickly and easily (I learned it the hard way and the explanations clarified why the Real Subs didn't work when I was listening to 4 at a time). Choose one, and try to stick to it for at least a month(?). Well, duration varies from person to person. If you're going to change or try another subliminal, you apparently should wait a month (or was it 3??) for the original messages to fade so as not to interfere. That's according to Subliminal Shop/Indigo Mindlabs so if interested, look them up at least for instructions and explanations on how to use subliminals "effectively/safely".

[KateD]

I guess like with most guys admitting there is room for improvement makes him feel less. It was hard getting him to believe in pheromones. I was super shocked that the massage oil was the convincing tool.

I even got some products for him that he happily wears to head to work but he hasn't yet tried to seduce me with it. Maybe I make it too easy for him so he doesn't feel he needs to try.

Subliminal messages is a no no. I need something I can do on my end so it doesn't feel like am judging him or trying to change him. That sort of approach causes much resistance.

[RTBoss]

There's a silent track, you could always play it on a bluetooth speaker while you both sleep. He'd have no idea until he started feeling like a beast. You'll both get the benefits. My wife was exposed to the emotional healing subliminal, without knowing it'd affect her. She only complained about the high pitch ultrasonic, but most people can't hear it.

fdesa12 You don't have to take any more than a few days off for the 4G subs, and only after an intensive 5G multi-stager would you have to take up to 2 weeks off.

[KateD]

oh wow awesome!

[fdesa12]

There's a silent track, you could always play it on a bluetooth speaker while you both sleep. He'd have no idea until he started feeling like a beast. You'll both get the benefits. My wife was exposed to the emotional healing subliminal, without knowing it'd affect her. She only complained about the high pitch ultrasonic, but most people can't hear it.

fdesa12 You don't have to take any more than a few days off for the 4G subs, and only after an intensive 5G multi-stager would you have to take up to 2 weeks off.

Was that what it was?? Good to know lol There was me, just waiting for the longest time.

KateD If subs are a no-go, then... exercise? Or some kind of hobby that really engages him where he's definitely not going to give up. Or if he does, it's only for a moment and then he'll come back to try again. Something of this nature reminds me kind of what happens with low testosterone levels, which sounds kind of similar to comments on what happens when males masturbate too often (they become super beta and don't go after things/be alpha about things).

[KateD]

when he was younger yes and he has very little experience with women

[KateD]

fdesa12 : When he was younger he watched a lot of porn and masturbated a lot. I am like his third serious relationship and he was not the playa type. He hasn't been with a lot of women sexually. I note the difference because I have been with men who were man whores and it is clear the difference in approach and the way he goes about things.

Do you really think exercise can help bring the Alpha out

This is not only for me and what I desire. This is for his life and good for him generally.I see how people take advantage of him and he never stands up for himself. I want him to aggressively take on life and be confident he can do so much more than others make him feel he can.

[fdesa12]

Well, I don't know if exercise is THE answer. I'm not as alpha either though I am somewhere in between Asian and Westernized (think typical Asian man compared to the typical Westernized man and I'm somewhere in-between... not in that naughty way... I should think of how to rephrase that). What I do know is that when I exercised and started toning a bit and lightly building up muscle, I got a huge confidence boost when my own mom thought my back looked stronger and muscular. She's usually critical so hearing that was like work out more.

Exercise apparently boosts testosterone too, which is the primary alpha component of all hormones in men, and he's probably low on.

The hard part is understanding that if its exercising, do not go all out on the first week. Just do light sets and reps and complete that for the day. And then move on with the rest of the day doing other stuff outside of exercise. If he burns himself out on the first day, he'll be too sore to try again even after 2 days, which is quite a motivation smasher

[KateD]

got it! I will start with us working out together thanks f

[fdesa12]

Good luck! Hopefully there will be some more input and suggestions.

[KaressXOXO]

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[KateD]

No who is he?

[KaressXOXO]

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[KaressXOXO]

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[Enigma]

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