Another Guy Trying to Recover a Strained Relationship with his Girlfriend

[Bloodburn]

Welcome to the XS community.

[Ildergreier]

Welcome.

[Scottie2Hottie]

Actually I did use to work for the CIA at one time.

[Phoenix2886]

You were a chef?! Here all of this time I thought you were a secret agent! Or a hitman....

[Scottie2Hottie]

Yes I suppose that's true. There are times when I exercise restraint too. But I really dgaf what people think of me. You know Chef Ramsey from Hell's Kitchen? That was me in my previous profession. I call it like I see it.

[Phoenix2886]

Thank you Scottie2Hottie I've read some of your other posts and I'm definitely impressed. You seem to be blunt and to the point. It seems like I need more of that in my life. I created a journal and moved my posts there, it would be awesome if you would be willing to check it out!

[Scottie2Hottie]

I can't stay but want to say a quick hello and welcome. I'll try to stop by later today.

[Phoenix2886]

Hello all! I am a former Alpha who has turned Beta over the last two years. Now I'm trying to get my life back on track.

I've also been dating a girl for the last three years. I had originally planned on marrying her. I am a white male 32 (that looks 26) and my girlfriend is a latina/white mix 25 (that looks 28). In the looks department I used to be a 7, but I gained a lot of weight so I am around a 5 now I guess. My girlfriend is also a 7, but still a 7.

About two years ago I lost my father in a motorcycle accident, and not long after I was laid off my engineering job. I moved across the country with my girlfriend to be close to my family. But I have been working as an Amazon Delivery driver. I WAS looking for a fun Engineering job that pays just as well as my last one. But recently I realized I was just being prideful and I am looking for any type of job. Regardless, over the last two years I cut everyone out of my life except my girlfriend, and became a loser.

Now, I'm here trying to get my life back on track and rebuild it. I want to re-attract my girlfriend if it's possible, but it may be too little too late. In the process of becoming Alpha again (or at least more Alpha) and regaining my athletic build if/when she dumps me I should be in a good place to replace her.

I have turned to pheromones to give me an edge. I realize 90% is going to be the work I have to put in but I am hoping to use pheromones to buy me a little time, and to aide in my recovery.

Any advice from people who have successfully recovered a strained relationship, or knows what pheromone strategy would work best would be greatly appreciated!!