Originally posted by Primross
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One thing about your time apart. Limited contact is best. If you exchange numbers don't go blowing up her phone. If she doesn't contact you first wait until the day of class. Just send a quick short text. Something like "Hey are you going to be in class today?" If she replies with yes just say "Cool see you there." and leave it at that. It shows that you're interested but not blowing up her phone acting all desperate. You want to bait the hook but let her come to you at a pace she's comfortable with. I'm reminded of fishing for lake trout. You bait the hook and lower it in the water leaving lots of slack. You also chum the water with additional bait (your pheros) to attract them to your hook. Trout are smart. They're going to test the bait first. If they detect tension in the line or a hook they will spit the bait back out and swim away. You don't yank on your pole (no pun intended) and set the hook until they swallow the bait. Reeling them in is a dance. You alternate tension and slack. Tension and slack. You try too hard forcing things and they will break the line and run.
One word about texting. NEVER reply right away. Wait awhile, a few hours to a few days. You want her to think that you have a life and things going on. Even if you're just sitting there twittling your thumbs checking your phone every two seconds she doesn't need to know that. Being busy and not acting desperate creates higher value. That creates greater interest. Be a challenge. She'll try harder.
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