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Hey guys I have no clue how I even made it to this forum or even ordering Xist 😂. But I ordered a bottle and now I'm here. I've never dabbed in Pheromones but went on a Google bender and spent hours reading before ordering. So my "goal" was to get more of a spark back with my gf of 6 years. A little backstory to this is I'm a recovering addict with 3 years clean and turn ed my life around HUGE. But me and her have been talking and since I've gotten sober I've lost affection, emotional connection etc. After some digging around I've found I've got an 'Avoidant attachment style and everything that's comes along with it to a T. All of this came out after being sober. I've lost my want to be intimate, my communication has decreased and all that good stuff that goes along with the avoidant attachment style. Long story short I'm looking to get all these back and It seems some of these pheromones may be able to able to help me along the way lol. So I've got a big bottle of XIST and some samples of Ascend, Cohesion and Love Boat and any tips would be greatly appreciated! ( I'm obviously going to read through the threads don't think I'm just being lazy and wanting all the answers done for me 😂)
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Welcome - you're gonna love pheros - I've been using for years....They work! I'm still learning, like all of us here. Avoidant attachment style can be overcome! Keep at it, use the pheros, check the forums often. BTW, your GF can use them too
Good luck!
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Glad You are here.Comment
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Fuck yeah man, good job on getting and staying sober.
You reminded me I have to take that attachment quiz so thank you for that xD
And you chose a really good mix. I have and have been using Xist for a bit now. For you definitely test Xist out with Ascend. The point being that Ascend has cops in it. The testosterone and libido increase from smelling cops may help with your lost for intimacy.
Actually I don’t know what you mean, can you go into more detail about your list of wanting to be intimate and the decrease in communication?
Oh and welcome!Comment
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Welcome to the fam! Definitely echo ChasingAHighComment
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What age are you and your partner?
I know that xist did wonders for me as a reset, but it's rarely a go to for me recently. I tend to use a1 heavy products during her PMS and then heavy alphas such as evolve domination or SOB during other times. For reference I'm 49, and she is 39.
By losing your ability to be intimate do you mean physically, verbally, or some other description. Knowing the answer to that will help with what we can suggest.
Oh and welcome.
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You are about to embark on quite a journey. You do realize that people use pheromones to attract while you say you have an inclination to avoid?
That will by necessity force you into a 180 from where you are at now. What I mean is that you will actually have to go out and try to connect, You are going to have to go out and connect and feel. AN important part of pheromone use is observing other people. That may be uncomfortable. If you got sober, you have more courage than you are aware of though. The only way out is through. You will have to interpret these observation evaluate, reevaluate and correct. You will make mistakes. We all interpret things differently, we all have our own perspectives which in turn generate feelings in us.
But we all deceive ourselves, Where there is perception there is also deception. Your biggest hindrance will be the deception of self. So we experiment with doses and dozens and dozens of different people, We tend to keep our pheromonal usage private btw because if people know it changes how they react to us and our perceptions are as i said easily deceived by them as well as our own. Error is additive while probability is multiplicative. Track feelings and observations in your journal is a good thing. You can set one up here, Most of us have respect for other journals and opinions if they are in a journal.
Your truths will slowly refine but a side effect is that I now have a much wider range of emotions. I permit myself to feel things I would not have before. These are mildly mood altering. I like to compare it to going into a room full of people where everybody is happy and i start to become happy. It's just a nuanced mood altering but you can pick your moods. This is very empowering to have chaotic emotions slightly under control. Be careful, I wear the lightest dose I can. Since you are a recovering addict, you might watch out for thinking that more is better. I have found that too much just pushes people away. I have used these to push people away on purpose. If you push enough people away, the human connection you need to stay sober will dissolve, That is counterproductive to you and the general idea of using pheromones.
Look into connections too, The rest you mentioned are staples when you can afford them. I tend to go for API oil instead of ascend, it is more street smarts. More my personal style, I quit wearing ties a long time ago but I still wear it with Sport shirts and dockers days.
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just reply in regular forum posts. Reply don't count toward lifetime discounts. If you want to reply to a particalar person while getting post count up, just use the quote function. You can quote it all or just a piece.Comment
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EST - in very small amounts will draw out of you your most caring side. this is my emotionless cure recommendation for you
BNol - will make it easier to share your emotions and connect with them, yourself, and her on the deeper level you’re looking for
Cops - after experiencing and sharing a deeper connection with yourself and her, an amazing gift of thanks would be if she felt you had a desire for her greater than you ever before. cops will do that, and it would mean the world for the both of you. you two will continue to experience deeper connections because of it.
I recommend doing the 36 questions with her while having the above on. I bet my life you’ll notice a difference in the direction you want if you do all the above.Comment
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Those are good combinations. I have often done a est/cops blend (female) combined with thinker. It has the Bnol in it but not so much as connections. Connections and SOB sometimes have me saying stuff I should have left unsaid It might be a bit early too experiment with the feminine molecules but the recommendation could work. In fact, I think its spot on actually, I often wear it for meditation with a slight variation. When I have worn it in public some girls looked confused or bewildered but the communications were fine.
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Funny i have had the same thing with saying stuff better left unsaid with Fantasy and Connections!Those are good combinations. I have often done a est/cops blend (female) combined with thinker. It has the Bnol in it but not so much as connections. Connections and SOB sometimes have me saying stuff I should have left unsaid It might be a bit early too experiment with the feminine molecules but the recommendation could work. In fact, I think its spot on actually, I often wear it for meditation with a slight variation. When I have worn it in public some girls looked confused or bewildered but the communications were fine.XSPerfumes 10ml Sprays Comply,Sexy Confidence,Bitch, Celebrity, Babe,XSential Body Spray for women, P86, P114,P106,Mascot,Engage,BNOL,Sweetness,EST, Tease,Odyssey,Temptress,Flirt,Fairytale,Girlfriend ,Sleaze
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It's so great that you decided to join the forum! I can't wait to hear more about your experience with us! As for your situation, Boyfriend is for more of the "already established" relationships that want that initial spark back. Xist is mainly to 'get out of the friend zone", but a lot of people have had success in already established relationships too! Boyfriend is built off of Xist but has more comfort and communication molecules, so maybe give that a try at some point and see how it goes. Of course, other men on here may be able to give you a better suggestion since I mainly experiment with women's products, but I figured it was information that should be shared, ya know?
Enjoy your journey!Comment
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Welcome to the forum my friend!Comment
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