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Whenever I meet a new waitress at a bar/restaurant I have already established social proof at I lay on what I call my neg stack. Its all done flirtatiously and to the level of her confidence. I never play the game to hurt anybody or be a bully. I am a pretty good judge of character and I had been with both the bartender and another waitress here at this restaurant. Like is typical of most Memphis establishments its BBQ place with a bar and live music. I have great social proof here.
There's this one waitress, we shall call her NT and while not overtly hot, she has her points. Pretty nice body, some tats, cute face, pretty eyes, great smile. I'm only human and sometimes I screw up. On NT I mistook the visible tats on her legs as a sign of confidence when many times its more a crutch for lack of. Usually I take it all into consideration but I had gotten it wrong with NT and already gave up on it quite a while ago.
One night while I was hitting on her, she was my waitress, and I guess I negged her to hard. I was complimenting one of her best friends and someone I've already had numerous times. NT asked me how good of a waitress she was and my rule is I never reply directly to a direct question when I'm in the game. Some round the cuff, cocky answer does the trick. It has worked magic in the past and seemingly it worked well with her. She kept pushing though and at that point I should have recognized all the factors: neediness, fishing for compliments, visible tattoos she was drawing attention too. This girl was in need of love and had low self esteem.
Anyway I negged her a bit to hard. I basically said she was not a very good waitress, but not quite the worst either and with the time I was willing to spend in her section I'm sure soon enough she'd be amazing too. Something to that effect. I also made sure I told the bartender whom I used to date and also the manager that NT was a great waitress and I was super impressed. Neg her, but the boss tells her how great I thought she was. Its conflicting and carries a wide range of emotions.
It all backfired because as I mentioned her self-esteem was just terrible. Guys never, ever think a girl has high self-esteem on looks alone. It will shock you just how many hot girls have very little. NT wasn't a hottie but somebody screwed her up in the past. She really was pretty upset and while she tried to make it seem it didn't bother her I knew the game was up. At this point its about adding value to others life. There are plenty of women in the world to bang with. I wasn't going to ever bang NT so now all I could do was prop her up and at least attempt to elevate her self image. I went t work with some NLP techniques and did my best to do that.
Over time I noticed though this girl had bigger issues than me saying she sucked as a waitress. I think she got off feeling bad about herself and having people daunt over her. Almost like the hypochondriac but her hurt was emotional pain and not bodily injury. It was becoming more and more evident. I did what I could for her but I could tell when I would actually get through to help her, she would stay away from me. It was like the closer I came to giving her the jump-start to start her engine so she could fix her internal issues she would leave the lights on to drain the battery. There are times you just have to move on. It was no longer her avoiding me, now I avoided her and that actually made her happy.
So tonight I'm wearing one drop of Cohesion oil with pepper nutmeg and 2 sprays of XiSt with sultans oud. The first place I went to meet my wingman was dead. He finished his thing and while doing so I joined him at his table. The waitress came over and before she asked me if I needed anything or even if he was okay, she was sitting with us. I had arrived late so I had no idea if this was a set or not so all I could do was tell her about his recent return from Alaska and how he probably was wrestling bears. I couldn't tell for certain but I'm pretty sure the mones worked well on her, but gave my signature to him. That's what was the right thing to do anyway. So she was all about him and was like either really ditsy or completely engrossed in him. Never once did she ask me a single do you need anything question, She had big dilated baby blues staring at my wing all lovie dovie.
So off to place 2. The bartender has since left there, the other waitress wasn't working but NT was. She wasn't my waitress, but this really sexy blond was with the greatest shorts. Her butt was just bumping and I was waiting for her to start twerking
. NT had walked by to her section a couple times and the first time didn't even make eye contact. Her table was directly behind me and the next time she came by she made eye contact and gave me a very sexy smile. The next time this girl who usually doesn't even look at me sits down in my lap, wraps her arms around my neck and her nose practically touching mine, obvious direct eye contact says in the most seductive way, SteveO, I've missed you. I really thought she was moving in for a kiss and she did get close, but I backed up a little and was like, well NT, I'm right here when you're ready to not miss me anymore.
She pops up off my lap and I'm thinking shit I blew it again and just saunters off. I notice the more she walks by the more she starts looking and I could swear this girl is showing me more skin. In the meantime the blond butt girl is kind of getting jealous which is great. I know I can get the blond and didn't make an effort to close her, but she made it a point to tell me her name and ask me if I'd be back. When I said I was basically a regular she noticeably got happier and insisted I promise to sit in her section. I hadn't even tipped yet (I take care of the girls)so it wasn't that. I did some additional flirting with her and from the corner of my eye I spy NT stalking me.
Before I leave NT says she's got a break and will I walk outside with her. My wing, her and I all go out. This girl is almost grabbing my junk and I decide to push it. I asked her if she still thought I was the worst customer and she says sometimes a girls got to try the things everybody tells her are bad for her. Solid answer right there! I number closed her and did a little more but my wing was leaving. I said peace out to him and attempted to close that deal right there. She was very agreeable to it, but she was working and till 3 or closing.
I'm kind of glad though because while I am a horndog I really liked the blond and this girl has issues. I totally saw the reset everyone talks about here though. I honestly have never experienced it like that so it took me by complete surprise. Cohesion has always worked great but this was something else. I read a post about this combo today but forget whose thread. I think somebody got it from Kimba. Holy shit wherever its from big score! I don't really plan to followup with NT though and at the same time hope I didn't screw it up with the blond. OMG did I mention that girls butt in those shorts
There's this one waitress, we shall call her NT and while not overtly hot, she has her points. Pretty nice body, some tats, cute face, pretty eyes, great smile. I'm only human and sometimes I screw up. On NT I mistook the visible tats on her legs as a sign of confidence when many times its more a crutch for lack of. Usually I take it all into consideration but I had gotten it wrong with NT and already gave up on it quite a while ago.
One night while I was hitting on her, she was my waitress, and I guess I negged her to hard. I was complimenting one of her best friends and someone I've already had numerous times. NT asked me how good of a waitress she was and my rule is I never reply directly to a direct question when I'm in the game. Some round the cuff, cocky answer does the trick. It has worked magic in the past and seemingly it worked well with her. She kept pushing though and at that point I should have recognized all the factors: neediness, fishing for compliments, visible tattoos she was drawing attention too. This girl was in need of love and had low self esteem.
Anyway I negged her a bit to hard. I basically said she was not a very good waitress, but not quite the worst either and with the time I was willing to spend in her section I'm sure soon enough she'd be amazing too. Something to that effect. I also made sure I told the bartender whom I used to date and also the manager that NT was a great waitress and I was super impressed. Neg her, but the boss tells her how great I thought she was. Its conflicting and carries a wide range of emotions.
It all backfired because as I mentioned her self-esteem was just terrible. Guys never, ever think a girl has high self-esteem on looks alone. It will shock you just how many hot girls have very little. NT wasn't a hottie but somebody screwed her up in the past. She really was pretty upset and while she tried to make it seem it didn't bother her I knew the game was up. At this point its about adding value to others life. There are plenty of women in the world to bang with. I wasn't going to ever bang NT so now all I could do was prop her up and at least attempt to elevate her self image. I went t work with some NLP techniques and did my best to do that.
Over time I noticed though this girl had bigger issues than me saying she sucked as a waitress. I think she got off feeling bad about herself and having people daunt over her. Almost like the hypochondriac but her hurt was emotional pain and not bodily injury. It was becoming more and more evident. I did what I could for her but I could tell when I would actually get through to help her, she would stay away from me. It was like the closer I came to giving her the jump-start to start her engine so she could fix her internal issues she would leave the lights on to drain the battery. There are times you just have to move on. It was no longer her avoiding me, now I avoided her and that actually made her happy.
So tonight I'm wearing one drop of Cohesion oil with pepper nutmeg and 2 sprays of XiSt with sultans oud. The first place I went to meet my wingman was dead. He finished his thing and while doing so I joined him at his table. The waitress came over and before she asked me if I needed anything or even if he was okay, she was sitting with us. I had arrived late so I had no idea if this was a set or not so all I could do was tell her about his recent return from Alaska and how he probably was wrestling bears. I couldn't tell for certain but I'm pretty sure the mones worked well on her, but gave my signature to him. That's what was the right thing to do anyway. So she was all about him and was like either really ditsy or completely engrossed in him. Never once did she ask me a single do you need anything question, She had big dilated baby blues staring at my wing all lovie dovie.
So off to place 2. The bartender has since left there, the other waitress wasn't working but NT was. She wasn't my waitress, but this really sexy blond was with the greatest shorts. Her butt was just bumping and I was waiting for her to start twerking
. NT had walked by to her section a couple times and the first time didn't even make eye contact. Her table was directly behind me and the next time she came by she made eye contact and gave me a very sexy smile. The next time this girl who usually doesn't even look at me sits down in my lap, wraps her arms around my neck and her nose practically touching mine, obvious direct eye contact says in the most seductive way, SteveO, I've missed you. I really thought she was moving in for a kiss and she did get close, but I backed up a little and was like, well NT, I'm right here when you're ready to not miss me anymore.She pops up off my lap and I'm thinking shit I blew it again and just saunters off. I notice the more she walks by the more she starts looking and I could swear this girl is showing me more skin. In the meantime the blond butt girl is kind of getting jealous which is great. I know I can get the blond and didn't make an effort to close her, but she made it a point to tell me her name and ask me if I'd be back. When I said I was basically a regular she noticeably got happier and insisted I promise to sit in her section. I hadn't even tipped yet (I take care of the girls)so it wasn't that. I did some additional flirting with her and from the corner of my eye I spy NT stalking me.
Before I leave NT says she's got a break and will I walk outside with her. My wing, her and I all go out. This girl is almost grabbing my junk and I decide to push it. I asked her if she still thought I was the worst customer and she says sometimes a girls got to try the things everybody tells her are bad for her. Solid answer right there! I number closed her and did a little more but my wing was leaving. I said peace out to him and attempted to close that deal right there. She was very agreeable to it, but she was working and till 3 or closing.
I'm kind of glad though because while I am a horndog I really liked the blond and this girl has issues. I totally saw the reset everyone talks about here though. I honestly have never experienced it like that so it took me by complete surprise. Cohesion has always worked great but this was something else. I read a post about this combo today but forget whose thread. I think somebody got it from Kimba. Holy shit wherever its from big score! I don't really plan to followup with NT though and at the same time hope I didn't screw it up with the blond. OMG did I mention that girls butt in those shorts
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