Help interpreting hits.

[Veres]

Last Saturday I tried Sob+bliss+A1 for the first time on someone who had no (noticeable) reaction to domination oil. Bellow is an excerpt from my journal entry relating the hits I noticed that match up to the stickied hit list. I think the combo was working as intended, but I hit resistance and was hoping to get some input from more experienced users. Similar experiences, personal interpretations, advice on my combo, anything would be appreciated.

So, the results:

A slew of hits, more reactions than I ever got with dominate.

We were sitting less than a foot apart for all this sprawled out on my bed (no couch yet, new place). She showed up in short shorts and a t-shirt.

Normally she is really chill, able to sit still for hears without so much as a twitch. But this time she couldn’t stop shifting around, crossing/uncrossing her legs. Sitting splayed out, or curling up next to me. It didn’t look like she was uncomfortable either, just fidgety.

Her hands kept drifting to her lap, between her legs, or between her thighs. Eventually she managed to keep her arms at her side, but it seemed to take real effort and every once in a while they would drift back.

She would also constantly touch her neck, play with her hair and lick her lips. When she thought I wasn’t looking she would often look my way and stare.

When we talked between shows (often 30+ minutes at a time, we were binging disenchanted) she would often drift closer, her face getting very close to mine until she would seem to catch herself and pull back abruptly.

In the last 3 hours her legs would often brush mine and stay there, and her fidgeting got to the point that we were almost spooning(this didn’t last too long though), but she was inches away. Her hands would also brush mine and linger.

She also brought up sexual topics way more than the zero times in the past.

She rarely asks for hugs, and when she does it’s always the awkward A-frame hug. But she asked that day and gave me a full body lingering one.

Now, I’m not an idiot(usually), and I can be pretty dense but even I picked up on the cues. But every time I attempted to reciprocate, start kino, or lead the conversation I’d get shut down fast and it would be a good 10-15 minutes before the above hits resumed. She’d scoot away (only to drift closer after a lil while) resolutely look away, clam up, remove her hand or leg at any show of interest.

[Primross]

Looks like you have a good handle on it. This is an issue I have also struggled with

[Veres]

Ok, if I’m interpreting the hits right, then any ideas behind her reactions to me?

was the mix too sexual? Was I not assertive enough, too subtle? Do I need better buffers or socials? Or was it working as intended and she was feeling it, but just isn’t interested in me?

Any thoughts on remedying this?

[Primross]

She sounds like someone who you need to use persistence with. Some women always shut down escalation as a shit test to see what you will do. She seems like she just needs a little extra push.

[Muestereate]

You may have to separate her from that environment to escalate. She views your place as safe and if she lets you escalate there it won't ever be safe again. It is standard PUA to separate a girl from her herd to escalate, the herd is safety. Your home is safety, as it should be, Separate her, possibly take a walk, if she reaches for your hand demonstrate that safety is still available by putting your palm over the back of her hand instead of palm to palm. This is a safety/guidance type gesture guide her towards a quiet nonpublic, kinda private space. Read her tension anyway you can but you have to escalate past the kino to a kiss. You have to take a chance.

If you don't separate her from the environment she will feel as if her original choice to visit you was a bad judgment. As if she wants to escalate more than you do. Many women like plausible deniability, it gives them control in the relationship which they need.

[Primross]

Amy updates?

[Veres]

Ok, so it sounds like it’s not a problem with the mix. If I followed correctly, a couple more exposures should help, but I’ll certainly follow the advice to take her out of safe spaces to shake things up. Take more initiative and give her plausible deniability.

no update yet, but I should be seeing her this weekend, and on a separate day the girl from my teasing post. I’ll post updates here and in my journal. Thanks for the advice guys