I frequently forget about an old NLP technique called Mirroring. At its most straightforward it is simply trying to copy everything about your date. I usually started with posture, then hand position, and even gestures if II could make my mirroring non-obvious. Rather quickly I would try to match breathing rates. It only takes moments to synch with a person. At first, we follow their gestures etc but then naturally we introduce some of our own. If they start to unconsciously copy us, we can assume they are synching. A few times I have been able to bump my own heart rate up just by keeping a beet/count going on in my head and then increasing it. If you are synched, their heart rate will change and with it, interest and excitement.
All this sounds strange but I can only keep it going for a few minutes and if consciously doing it it can become obvious so I have learned to disengage and just take it as an indicator of interest.
Well here's a scientific study that measured similar things and it turns out just 5 minutes of good synch as well as something they are calling attunement are enough to make a difference in whether a first date turns into a relationship. I'm sure we have tons of blends that can help with this, I just haven't consciously looked at them from this scientific angle.
If you are inclined to read scientific research:
Bio-Behavioral Synchrony
All this sounds strange but I can only keep it going for a few minutes and if consciously doing it it can become obvious so I have learned to disengage and just take it as an indicator of interest.
Well here's a scientific study that measured similar things and it turns out just 5 minutes of good synch as well as something they are calling attunement are enough to make a difference in whether a first date turns into a relationship. I'm sure we have tons of blends that can help with this, I just haven't consciously looked at them from this scientific angle.
If you are inclined to read scientific research:
Bio-Behavioral Synchrony
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