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What makes a person great?
What makes a person great?
January 15th marked the birthday of a great man who changed the course of history here in the United States. Thirty-nine years later, just down the road from our XS lab, in Memphis, TN Dr. Martin Luther King Jr was assassinated. His murder reverberated around the world and with a deep sense of loss and injustice there was anger and trepidation, but perhaps most important an opportunity for real change.
I like to educate myself whenever an important calendar date approaches such as Dr Kings celebrated birthday on Monday January 20th. Besides what was learned in school, read in the books, magazine, or what have you, I like to delve into the person behind the mythical legend the world creates around them. History fascinates me and unless we know it we are doomed to repeat it. Its another reason why you should also be reading the history perspective of the other side. My father taught me there are three sides to every story. His side, her side and the truth.
Dr. King hungered for a world where respect was based on the action of the person and never on the color of their skin. Where people lived in peace and unity and love was the order of the day. From the anger erupting around his life as in his death I guess this was a radical perspective.
I believe what surprised me, that besides all the remarkable achievements, speeches that inspired a world and even the Nobel Prize for Peace, was the controversy surrounding the bill to honor his birthday as a national holiday.
We all have what many call skeletons in our closet just as Dr. King did. Those opposing a day of remembrance to celebrate this great mans birthday brought out every skeleton possible. They called him a communist, a Marxist, even objected to his objections to the Vietnam war. Imagine that!
What makes a person great anyway? Is it the deeds he does in his life, the words he says, the people he associates with? Should we consider his political affiliations, his religion, perhaps the color of his car? As intrusive as this all might sound, there are certainly aspects of all these that do make the man a man, but why does history remember some men as great while others are forgotten?
I believe this question can be answered with some of the following traits; A man who lives with passion and cause, a dreamer, someone who follows their heart, he leaves value and is genuine. A man who is respected and shows respect.
Perhaps Bessie Anderson Stanley said it best when in 1904 she penned “What is success?”
Like most in our DiscoverXS community I had spent a large sum of cash on commercial pheromone products that were weak, improperly balanced or just didn’t work at all. Most of these products were made by guys who never even used pheromones looking to cash in.
I’ve told this story many times and I still love telling it. Pheromones are exciting to me, even more so now. The science was there and occasionally I would get a result. By all accords one “hit” out of hundreds of applications was sufficient evidence to give up. Maybe it was the allure of social engineering, the ability to gain an edge or just faith which many times is enough in itself which kept me going.
With each new promise or guarantee, the stronger of which, the actual products got worse and worse. Perhaps this is what drove me to continue my quest, to push myself and the knowledge I was gaining even further. These products smelled like pork that had gone bad so I asked myself why? I studied and discovered androstenone was secreted by male pigs as it is by humans. In what I didn’t have in results, I had in scientific literature. By continuing to push myself forward I elevated my knowledge and indeed knowledge is power. Eventually I had a breakthrough because I never gave up on the greatness of that which I believe in - myself and therefore my abilities!
I continue to this day improving myself in every way that I can. I still read most dating guides or PUA material that is constantly being pushed as new and innovative. I study hypnotism and NLP daily. I work out and am on a healthy living diet with pre-portioned meals. I have a life-coach, a personal trainer and have been asked to join a world-class coaching team to help others. I make conscious choices to bring me closer to my goals rather than pull me away. I am consciously making decisions that impact the greatness of my life and those I am surrounded by.
Then I sit back in my chair, my hands behind my head, fingers intertwined, body taking up space and take a deep breath. If someone saw me they’d think, now there’s an alpha-male, a confident guy. On the other hand someone with their own confidence issues might even proclaim there I sit, an egotistical maniac, a self-important guru, a jerk!
As I matured and read all these psychological profiles of what an alpha-male was expected to be like, somewhere along the way I left the emotions behind and closed off my heart. It is after all, what an alpha-male is expected to do. Men are logical and women emotional. Guys don’t cry, men don’t get attached after sex, we aren’t even supposed to feel anything at all. For a long time I really started to believe all this bullshit!
That’s right, I called it all bullshit and that’s exactly what it is. I am a guy who is able to meditate for long periods of time. Some would call me an expert at it as I can easily transgress the greater part of an hour. I would sit there and clear my head. When thoughts would rush in, and they always seemed to, I would put those thoughts in the middle of a puffy white cloud and watch them float away dissipating as they got further and further from me. My mind was completely empty. Let me write that again and please read it aloud: My mind was completely empty.
You see I lost the emotional aspect of who I was, locked it away, and those thoughts I did have were the repetitious instincts of grinding through the steps. I’m sure many of you have watched the movie, “The Secret,” “What the %$#&^!” and have read books on the Universal laws of attraction, the “Power of Now” and so many others. It all seems so easy in these books and movies. There is an entire movement of people searching for answers on how to better themselves and in doing so their lives. At any given day a self-help book is sure to be on a best seller list or the latest craze of a world seeking something.
Are we seeking greatness or fame? Just like I had locked away my emotional being to become the alpha-male, the confident male, the leader I had to ask myself what greatness really was. I came to the conclusions I listed and yet still somehow all of it eluded me. So what was I missing?
Just like with pheromones the evidence pointed to real success. This was different though. It seemed the more I read, the more questions I had. The books, the seminars, the classes all took me along my journey just far enough and then abruptly stopped as if there were something else, some other secret just hiding around the corner. The allure was always just a step away, but to get there I would have to buy the next book, attend the next seminar for only a handful of the most awakened people, the teacher professing their newest innovation in next weeks class. I’m sure you know exactly what I am writing about.
It was as if it was the exact opposite of pheromones, where I could expect the knowledge to guide me to a good solid product or give me the ability to create my own. With the self help industry there was always some secret that eluded me, left out to entice me to buy more, to attend more classes. Another step I had to take. Just as I created an alpha persona devoid of all emotions and feelings, my journey to discover myself had left me a mere shell of who I really am.
This past Halloween I went on a seminar called HeartPath in Sedona, Arizona with Mindie Kniss and Sean Stephenson. I had already been to countless seminars and really had no desire to go to another. The difference is, a friend “Alex Allman”, highly recommended I listen to Sean Stephenson. Alex is someone I consider a mentor along with being a fantastic person. I have most of his programs and it was the starting point of my personal transformation. I started to change my life and live it with passion and XS was created.
I have what many of you call a knack to create pretty intense pheromone blends. I believe it is my passion and love to help others that allows me to flourish in creating blends that work. As a pheromone enthusiast and hobbyist I want you to experience the love I have, the passion I have when a blend is created. I believe its what makes the XS brand what it is.
When I get an email from someone as passionate about helping others as Alex is a few things can happen. I’ll leave the email unopened in my email and stare at it for a few days before finally deleting it. On many occasions I just delete it from the start. Then there are instances where I actually open and read it.
Its not that I don’t like what Alex has to say, on the contrary I love everything he writes about. It inspires me to action, but sometimes when taking action it rocks me to my core. You see he’s on point about most of the things going on in my life. I know I needed to make a change here or there, but inaction and many times fear itself, is a blanket of comfort. We live in this comfort zone and would rather stay miserable, fearful, overweight, addicted, lonely and any other of those personal demons we all have than make a change. Its why so many of us will actually sabotage our own paths when we are making strides. We all do it.
So when the day that email came from Alex I opened it and it took me to Sean Stephenson’s story and if you haven’t heard it before you owe it to yourself to discover it. When I lead people to him I only say please watch and listen to what he has to say. Its like leading a horse to water. You really need to be open to what Sean has to say to you. It was the right time and place on my journey and it sent shock-waves through my life. I had no more excuses. I knew the passion I had for pheromones was just a fraction of the passion I had for life, to help others and it was time to unlock the secrets inside myself.
I immediately bought Sean’s book and started reading it. I said to myself I have to meet this man. I will do whatever I need to do to meet this man. Well as fate would have it Sean sent out an email about a very private seminar in Sedona, Arizona and I signed up. Only afterwards was I like wait a second what the heck did I just sign up to? HeartPath, isn’t that some woo woo shit? Okay I’ll listen to Sean and then I’ll just check out Sedona.
The day arrived and the more I read about Mindie Kniss, Sean’s incredible wife the more I knew I was on the right path. I can honestly say that by lunch break on the very first day I had more than my monies worth. I couldn’t believe it but while driving to meditate under the stars I was telling Mindie she needed to charge more!
You see Mindie’s HeartPath is the exact formula you should use in your own life to become great. Maybe none of us will ever be “remembered” like Dr. King for both our shortcomings and our greatness alike, but we absolutely can be the change we want to see in others. By living your life true to ones passions, dreams and heart, by getting out of your head-space and into your heart-space you allow the greatness of who you are to be seen by others. There were no secret formulas, no sales pitches to buy more books or attend additional seminars. It was a very personal and visible (as I was told over and over) transformation that I experienced. For the very first time in a long, long time I discovered a deep love for myself. I gave myself permission to accept my fears, my loves, hates and all my emotions as a part of myself. I was whole again and not pretending to be an alpha-male leader. Instead I am Steve Osborn, a man of passion, and love with a deep desire to help others and I can’t think of anything more alpha than knowing exactly what you want out of life and following your heart to get it.
All of our characteristics of greatness comes from our good, bad and sometimes ugly. You can achieve the greatness you desire just by following your heart. I followed mine to HeartPath and now I can recommend you do too. When Mindie asked if there were any friends who I felt would benefit from her program it was immediate for me to make the recommendation to our community.
I make this recommendation to you completely of my own free will. There are no affiliate commissions or any type of compensation associated with this offer. This is my testament to you that this is the single most important event you may every attend. If you have the opportunity to attend I can promise you won’t come back the same.
For additional information check out Mindie's blog here
January 15th marked the birthday of a great man who changed the course of history here in the United States. Thirty-nine years later, just down the road from our XS lab, in Memphis, TN Dr. Martin Luther King Jr was assassinated. His murder reverberated around the world and with a deep sense of loss and injustice there was anger and trepidation, but perhaps most important an opportunity for real change.
I like to educate myself whenever an important calendar date approaches such as Dr Kings celebrated birthday on Monday January 20th. Besides what was learned in school, read in the books, magazine, or what have you, I like to delve into the person behind the mythical legend the world creates around them. History fascinates me and unless we know it we are doomed to repeat it. Its another reason why you should also be reading the history perspective of the other side. My father taught me there are three sides to every story. His side, her side and the truth.
Dr. King hungered for a world where respect was based on the action of the person and never on the color of their skin. Where people lived in peace and unity and love was the order of the day. From the anger erupting around his life as in his death I guess this was a radical perspective.
I believe what surprised me, that besides all the remarkable achievements, speeches that inspired a world and even the Nobel Prize for Peace, was the controversy surrounding the bill to honor his birthday as a national holiday.
We all have what many call skeletons in our closet just as Dr. King did. Those opposing a day of remembrance to celebrate this great mans birthday brought out every skeleton possible. They called him a communist, a Marxist, even objected to his objections to the Vietnam war. Imagine that!
What makes a person great anyway? Is it the deeds he does in his life, the words he says, the people he associates with? Should we consider his political affiliations, his religion, perhaps the color of his car? As intrusive as this all might sound, there are certainly aspects of all these that do make the man a man, but why does history remember some men as great while others are forgotten?
I believe this question can be answered with some of the following traits; A man who lives with passion and cause, a dreamer, someone who follows their heart, he leaves value and is genuine. A man who is respected and shows respect.
Perhaps Bessie Anderson Stanley said it best when in 1904 she penned “What is success?”
“To laugh often and love much; to win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection of children; to earn the approbation of honest citizens and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to give of one’s self; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived—this is to have succeeded.”
I’ve told this story many times and I still love telling it. Pheromones are exciting to me, even more so now. The science was there and occasionally I would get a result. By all accords one “hit” out of hundreds of applications was sufficient evidence to give up. Maybe it was the allure of social engineering, the ability to gain an edge or just faith which many times is enough in itself which kept me going.
With each new promise or guarantee, the stronger of which, the actual products got worse and worse. Perhaps this is what drove me to continue my quest, to push myself and the knowledge I was gaining even further. These products smelled like pork that had gone bad so I asked myself why? I studied and discovered androstenone was secreted by male pigs as it is by humans. In what I didn’t have in results, I had in scientific literature. By continuing to push myself forward I elevated my knowledge and indeed knowledge is power. Eventually I had a breakthrough because I never gave up on the greatness of that which I believe in - myself and therefore my abilities!
I continue to this day improving myself in every way that I can. I still read most dating guides or PUA material that is constantly being pushed as new and innovative. I study hypnotism and NLP daily. I work out and am on a healthy living diet with pre-portioned meals. I have a life-coach, a personal trainer and have been asked to join a world-class coaching team to help others. I make conscious choices to bring me closer to my goals rather than pull me away. I am consciously making decisions that impact the greatness of my life and those I am surrounded by.
Then I sit back in my chair, my hands behind my head, fingers intertwined, body taking up space and take a deep breath. If someone saw me they’d think, now there’s an alpha-male, a confident guy. On the other hand someone with their own confidence issues might even proclaim there I sit, an egotistical maniac, a self-important guru, a jerk!
As I matured and read all these psychological profiles of what an alpha-male was expected to be like, somewhere along the way I left the emotions behind and closed off my heart. It is after all, what an alpha-male is expected to do. Men are logical and women emotional. Guys don’t cry, men don’t get attached after sex, we aren’t even supposed to feel anything at all. For a long time I really started to believe all this bullshit!
That’s right, I called it all bullshit and that’s exactly what it is. I am a guy who is able to meditate for long periods of time. Some would call me an expert at it as I can easily transgress the greater part of an hour. I would sit there and clear my head. When thoughts would rush in, and they always seemed to, I would put those thoughts in the middle of a puffy white cloud and watch them float away dissipating as they got further and further from me. My mind was completely empty. Let me write that again and please read it aloud: My mind was completely empty.
You see I lost the emotional aspect of who I was, locked it away, and those thoughts I did have were the repetitious instincts of grinding through the steps. I’m sure many of you have watched the movie, “The Secret,” “What the %$#&^!” and have read books on the Universal laws of attraction, the “Power of Now” and so many others. It all seems so easy in these books and movies. There is an entire movement of people searching for answers on how to better themselves and in doing so their lives. At any given day a self-help book is sure to be on a best seller list or the latest craze of a world seeking something.
Are we seeking greatness or fame? Just like I had locked away my emotional being to become the alpha-male, the confident male, the leader I had to ask myself what greatness really was. I came to the conclusions I listed and yet still somehow all of it eluded me. So what was I missing?
Just like with pheromones the evidence pointed to real success. This was different though. It seemed the more I read, the more questions I had. The books, the seminars, the classes all took me along my journey just far enough and then abruptly stopped as if there were something else, some other secret just hiding around the corner. The allure was always just a step away, but to get there I would have to buy the next book, attend the next seminar for only a handful of the most awakened people, the teacher professing their newest innovation in next weeks class. I’m sure you know exactly what I am writing about.
It was as if it was the exact opposite of pheromones, where I could expect the knowledge to guide me to a good solid product or give me the ability to create my own. With the self help industry there was always some secret that eluded me, left out to entice me to buy more, to attend more classes. Another step I had to take. Just as I created an alpha persona devoid of all emotions and feelings, my journey to discover myself had left me a mere shell of who I really am.
This past Halloween I went on a seminar called HeartPath in Sedona, Arizona with Mindie Kniss and Sean Stephenson. I had already been to countless seminars and really had no desire to go to another. The difference is, a friend “Alex Allman”, highly recommended I listen to Sean Stephenson. Alex is someone I consider a mentor along with being a fantastic person. I have most of his programs and it was the starting point of my personal transformation. I started to change my life and live it with passion and XS was created.
I have what many of you call a knack to create pretty intense pheromone blends. I believe it is my passion and love to help others that allows me to flourish in creating blends that work. As a pheromone enthusiast and hobbyist I want you to experience the love I have, the passion I have when a blend is created. I believe its what makes the XS brand what it is.
When I get an email from someone as passionate about helping others as Alex is a few things can happen. I’ll leave the email unopened in my email and stare at it for a few days before finally deleting it. On many occasions I just delete it from the start. Then there are instances where I actually open and read it.
Its not that I don’t like what Alex has to say, on the contrary I love everything he writes about. It inspires me to action, but sometimes when taking action it rocks me to my core. You see he’s on point about most of the things going on in my life. I know I needed to make a change here or there, but inaction and many times fear itself, is a blanket of comfort. We live in this comfort zone and would rather stay miserable, fearful, overweight, addicted, lonely and any other of those personal demons we all have than make a change. Its why so many of us will actually sabotage our own paths when we are making strides. We all do it.
So when the day that email came from Alex I opened it and it took me to Sean Stephenson’s story and if you haven’t heard it before you owe it to yourself to discover it. When I lead people to him I only say please watch and listen to what he has to say. Its like leading a horse to water. You really need to be open to what Sean has to say to you. It was the right time and place on my journey and it sent shock-waves through my life. I had no more excuses. I knew the passion I had for pheromones was just a fraction of the passion I had for life, to help others and it was time to unlock the secrets inside myself.
I immediately bought Sean’s book and started reading it. I said to myself I have to meet this man. I will do whatever I need to do to meet this man. Well as fate would have it Sean sent out an email about a very private seminar in Sedona, Arizona and I signed up. Only afterwards was I like wait a second what the heck did I just sign up to? HeartPath, isn’t that some woo woo shit? Okay I’ll listen to Sean and then I’ll just check out Sedona.
The day arrived and the more I read about Mindie Kniss, Sean’s incredible wife the more I knew I was on the right path. I can honestly say that by lunch break on the very first day I had more than my monies worth. I couldn’t believe it but while driving to meditate under the stars I was telling Mindie she needed to charge more!
You see Mindie’s HeartPath is the exact formula you should use in your own life to become great. Maybe none of us will ever be “remembered” like Dr. King for both our shortcomings and our greatness alike, but we absolutely can be the change we want to see in others. By living your life true to ones passions, dreams and heart, by getting out of your head-space and into your heart-space you allow the greatness of who you are to be seen by others. There were no secret formulas, no sales pitches to buy more books or attend additional seminars. It was a very personal and visible (as I was told over and over) transformation that I experienced. For the very first time in a long, long time I discovered a deep love for myself. I gave myself permission to accept my fears, my loves, hates and all my emotions as a part of myself. I was whole again and not pretending to be an alpha-male leader. Instead I am Steve Osborn, a man of passion, and love with a deep desire to help others and I can’t think of anything more alpha than knowing exactly what you want out of life and following your heart to get it.
All of our characteristics of greatness comes from our good, bad and sometimes ugly. You can achieve the greatness you desire just by following your heart. I followed mine to HeartPath and now I can recommend you do too. When Mindie asked if there were any friends who I felt would benefit from her program it was immediate for me to make the recommendation to our community.
I make this recommendation to you completely of my own free will. There are no affiliate commissions or any type of compensation associated with this offer. This is my testament to you that this is the single most important event you may every attend. If you have the opportunity to attend I can promise you won’t come back the same.
For additional information check out Mindie's blog here
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