My wife and I have had a few conversations about this lately. I really enjoy talking to women. My wife is perfectly fine with this, and enjoys me getting positive attention from them (when it happens). She likes the confidence it produces in me, and (obviously) so do I. We both recognize that there is a difference between "flirting with" and "hitting on" women. And as a married man, I avoid the latter with strict diligence. The trouble is how people perceive the dividing line between the two. You with me? For my part, what I have in mind (initiating and sustaining comfortable conversations, perhaps with a little teasing and friendly banter, etc.) may not even be considered flirting by some.
So there is the background to my question (or a set of loosely affiliated questions). Are you comfortable with a married man carrying on with other women (married or single) in the way I've described? Can a MM approach women with these narrowly confined aims without being perceived as a creep, a wayward husband, or a wanna-be PUA? I can't tell you how often I would like to strike up conversations in coffee shops, pubs, bookstores, etc. but often don't because I do not want to be viewed as a MM trying to be a player. My wife suspects any effort to do so would be interpreted in precisely that way. Is she right? I If a MM wants to strike up a conversation with you, what is the best way to do it without being seen as having ulterior motives?
Feel free to take any of these questions in any direction that seems sensible to you.
So there is the background to my question (or a set of loosely affiliated questions). Are you comfortable with a married man carrying on with other women (married or single) in the way I've described? Can a MM approach women with these narrowly confined aims without being perceived as a creep, a wayward husband, or a wanna-be PUA? I can't tell you how often I would like to strike up conversations in coffee shops, pubs, bookstores, etc. but often don't because I do not want to be viewed as a MM trying to be a player. My wife suspects any effort to do so would be interpreted in precisely that way. Is she right? I If a MM wants to strike up a conversation with you, what is the best way to do it without being seen as having ulterior motives?
Feel free to take any of these questions in any direction that seems sensible to you.
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