Obsessions with my ex

[Muestereate]

Don't be getting all sentimental now zeratul

[lafemme]

Vicki Lee i've got to keep this in the back of my mind. i think it's easier when ju have a roster, though.????and i see some panini pressing in the future.lol

[Vicki Lee]

lafemme

[lafemme]

Vicki Lee i need to start doing this to men. sad

[lafemme]

Cheerio rip to me

[zeratul]

You hit it Vicki!

blue.manhattan You already know in your heart and head what's up. You're looking for something to sooth and, hopefully, help get through this tough time. I'm sorry hun, I wish there were a phero for that. There are plenty of products that can lift your mood, but they're all superficial for a hurting heart. If I could, I'd be sitting with you, huggin on you, crying with you, agreeing with you about how some guys are super huge assholes. Then I'd tell you you're beautiful, that some people just don't know what they're throwing away and that it's better not to waste any more time on that player than what you already did because it frees you up for the guy who's gonna do right by you. Then I'd give you more hugs and probably fog you in CohesionXS and VibeXS and take you out and have some fun with friends

Aww this is really sweet and supportive comment. You know when a guy posts a thread about ex obsession in Men's forum, the typical response is "Move on, dude. So many fishes, still, in the sea."

[NuTrix]

*me assuming* maybe she emotionally placed a title on the relationship before it evolved to the potential she thought it could be? My friend did the same thing. A little f*ck boi she was talking to she thought that their friendship would evolve into potential relationship. They never had sex but when he hurt ???? her feelings with his asshole tactics... She cried over him like they were dating, her emotions attached to him on a deeper level than they actually were label ???? wise.

You hit it Vicki!

blue.manhattan You already know in your heart and head what's up. You're looking for something to sooth and, hopefully, help get through this tough time. I'm sorry hun, I wish there were a phero for that. There are plenty of products that can lift your mood, but they're all superficial for a hurting heart. If I could, I'd be sitting with you, huggin on you, crying with you, agreeing with you about how some guys are super huge assholes. Then I'd tell you you're beautiful, that some people just don't know what they're throwing away and that it's better not to waste any more time on that player than what you already did because it frees you up for the guy who's gonna do right by you. Then I'd give you more hugs and probably fog you in CohesionXS and VibeXS and take you out and have some fun with friends

[Vicki Lee]

Maybe I'm a little confused... how is he your ex if you two only had sex?

[zeratul]

Maybe I'm a little confused... how is he your ex if you two only had sex?

Ex sex buddy? ????????

[AmandaXS]

In my spare time I write screenplays for Dr, Phil. They don't always work out well though




JK lol

now shes way better Silvia

[AmandaXS]

when she was on the show the way she talked on the show then and the way she talks now is completely different. she did it for the fame.

[Silvia]

wooooooow,yes i hate the way she decide to be famous.Also her voice is annoying as hell.I don't think she is a rapper at all

[AmandaXS]

WHAAAAAAAAT????? Silvia lol i love her well her music

[Muestereate]

[Cheerio]

Both. He pretended to be a
friend for a while, We
fucked and he vanished... I miss his friendship but I know he is a player. I miss him anyways and I kinda hate that he here everything he wants in life. Why this seems to happens? Like bad people hets his way all the time?

Maybe I'm a little confused... how is he your ex if you two only had sex?

[AmandaXS]

Both. He pretended to be a
friend for a while, We
fucked and he vanished... I miss his friendship but I know he is a player. I miss him anyways and I kinda hate that he here everything he wants in life. Why this seems to happens? Like bad people hets his way all the time?

girl i completely understand what you're going through been there done that. but i try to tell myself everyday that if it wasn't meant to be then it wasn't meant to be. i try to tell myself that i deserve better than that. you have to know you're worth. its not easy trust me i do have my days where i think about him but i try not to. i know he didnt care about me and thats okay cause i know my worth and i know that i deserve better than that. you just have to occupy your mind and keep busy. what i do is listen to music, or spend time with my family and friends. you just gotta stay positive. theres plenty of fish in the sea you just have to be patient until you find the right one. maybe the right one will find his way to you. he took a loss and you took a win thats how i try to see it. but stay stong. you got this

[Silvia]

i hate that girl

[Muestereate]

In my spare time I write screenplays for Dr, Phil. They don't always work out well though




JK lol

[zeratul]

Interesting conflicts. You miss him and hate him at the same time? That may seem irrational but I assure you that obsession and resentment are close cousins. Another emotion you described is envy. It's a bit different than jealousy over just things. Envy is about wanting to be that person or to be in their place. The place is having what you want but you don't want to be judged as bad.

Your obsession isn't really over him, it is about justice. "Bad people get what they want all the time" FIrst lets get rid of the word all. Bad people do not get what they want ALL the time. Can you think of and Bad people that didn't get what they wanted?

And a second thought is about the word bad. They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, well the same goes for good and bad. If you are not talking about pure evil malevolence, one person good can be another's bad and vice-versa. Can you think of anything in your own life that you once thought was bad but now seems to be good? For instance, I was taught sex was bad but once I tried it, it thought it was good.

Even if this didn't help I'll stick with the idea that the obsession is not about the man but about the things he represents or conflicts. Try separating them.

Omg, are you a life coach or a psychologist, Muestereate

[Muestereate]

time for you to move to Alabama Prim